I’m totally lost and know longer know what to do.
September last year I started getting sick. Fast forward to the start of this year I was diagnosed with an auto immune decrease. Which in turn attacked my heart and kidneys. My partner stood by me doing everything for me but I started feeling more of a patient and carer relationship then a relationship. I mean he even had to dress me and help me walk shower me everything.
I’ve always suffered from anxiety but I’ve been able to manage it without drugs. But the last 6 months it’s flared big time. Fighting /violence is a huge trigger for me. His son and my son are forever fighting so my anxiety rares it’s ugly head and we fight and I get a fight or flight mode. Last night was a huge one I packed my bags. And moved downstairs but I’m miserable I don’t want this disease to take everything away from me.
I know it’s one of the medications keeping me alive that’s make anxiety so much worse. And I just don’t know what to do any more do I
walk away from the only person who made me happy pre sickness.
Sickness and relationships
Sickness and relationships
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Get medicated for anxiety and get the kids under control; obviously different punishments or methods are needed.
I'd get everyone in to counselling if possible; you partner sounds awesome but carer burnout is a very real thing.
And you need to find a way to get on the same page with parenting - your kids fighting shouldn't result in you & your partner fighting.
Remember, it's "us against the problem".
I'm sorry to hear you are having a rough time.
From a partners perspective (I've done the caring for my husband due to a health condition for the past 18 months), it is difficult but I did it. I had to assist with dressing, showering and many sleepless nights and hospital trips. It did have an impact on the relationship because the dynamics changed within the whole house so I get it. But I sought out support and encouraged him to do the same. Have you spoken to your partner about how you feel?
My husband felt so bad that I was doing all this for him plus working and two kids, but I told him that it was OK. It's not his fault and thats just what we do. I'd expect the Same from him if it was reversed.
I'd suggest see your Dr about the medication to see what they recommend for the anxiety.
Reach out to services such as BeYou, Beyond Blue, Lifeline, Headspace, etc for counselling for yourself and your family relationships.
Wishing you all the best and i hope things improve for you.
I know this sounds like bullshit , but try clinical hyponotherapy. You may find it help you alot. Really recommend you giving it a shot, call someone and have a discussion with them and see if they can help you. Make sure the reviews are good first and do your research, but you'd be amazed how they do wonders for sick people .