Hey guys! I’m posting this on behalf of my friend. She’s just wanting some opinions and advice.
🏝I’ve been with my partner for 4 years. I have a daughter from a previous relationship, we have one daughter together and we have another bub on the way.
My partner has a female friend. He’s assured me that there is nothing going on but he is constantly hiding her messages.
The latest message was her talking to him about her breakup with her partner. My partners response was sending her lots of ❤️s and telling her how amazing she is.
I’m unsure if that’s just him being nice or is it showing feelings for her. He’s lied about talking to her before.
I messaged her explaining that it was making me uncomfortable and explained my point of view ect and she called me a weirdo and said I have serious trust issues.🏝
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Don’t message her, why would you do that? Your insecurity is with your partner so be a grown up and talk to him. If he refuses to show you the messages or even talk to you about it, then make the decision if you want to be with someone who makes you feel that way.
She has no control over your partners words or actions. He is 100% the person you should be dealing with
Because she might not be aware he shouldn’t be doing it or it makes her uncomfy, she’s got all right to ask her to back away
Why does he feel that he needs to hide talking to a friend? Your messages to her are out of line.
One thing I know is that you can’t control them, you can only watch them and see what they do.
You need to say exactly that but to him - , “your messages to her make me uncomfortable’ then watch what he does. And know that if he chases her that you will be ok without him. And make sure he knows if he wants to chase her he’ll be without you so fast.
Yer they are hiding something. You were honest and she called you a weirdo. They are def hiding things from you. Why would she get so defensive. Any normal person would apologise for making you feel that way.
All I can say is trust your gut 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Your husband is being disrespectful knowing how you feel. You are pregnant and he’s hiding messages with an amazing woman who is having relationship problems. You know the truth deep don’t don’t ignore the warnings. Her response to you and his hiding msgs says it all.
You don’t hide messages unless you have something to hide. You poor Mumma.
I’m going to be the minority here with a different opinion.
I have a lot of male friends more than female I often vent to them and bitch about my partner so if he asked to see our messages I’d probably say no too but there is nothing going on I don’t see them that way they are mates honestly I’m with her you have trust issues and that’s between you and your partner and you probably need to address that not every male is a sleeze bag and cheats on their partner just because they have a female friend men and women can be friends too
It’s weird that you messaged her. Sort it with him