Long term long distance relationship.
I am 49 with a teenage child. I have recently reconnected with a person from my past, who lives a couple of hours away. They are a similar age to me with no family commitments. But due to work for them & family/work for me, we will most likely never move nearer one another. Or at least it won’t be possible for many years.
We have an amazing connection after many, many years apart but it’s still very early days. In our past we were not really a couple, just good friends who dated on & off a few times. Nothing overly sexual is what I mean!
But meeting up again has been an explosion of emotions, like we may have found something really special decades later. Still, I’m confused about opening myself up to a complicated love affair. And I definitely know they are too.
My question is, can a long term long distance relationship last? Is it worth continuing? The most we could see each other is every 2nd-3rd weekend.
Do you have a relationship like this? How long has it been going for? How do you make it work?
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It will
Probably work best this way, go for it and see what happens. At least you won’t be living in each other’s pockets and over do it starting off. Enjoy it for what it is and the rest will follow eventually. A few hours away isn’t really that far.
It can definitely work with that distance, it's short enough for a day trip here and there if you can't spend a the whole weekend together, or you can meet halfway for lunch. It puts a bit of spark into it I think like you're dating longer. My husband and I spent the first 3 years living an hour apart. We saw each other often, he would drive over and leave early in the morning for work.
I think it can work as long as you both have realistic expectations of each other. I've seen a long distance relationship fail simply because one wanted the other to act like a live in partner (eg drop everything and be by her side for small things) and then get shitty when it wasn't possible.
It sounds great what you are doing , go with it and enjoy the ride