I am very overweight. I am so ashamed. I don’t fit any clothes anymore, people have said nasty things to me, I don’t look in the mirror because I hate what I see, Im super embarrassed to go anywhere, my relationship is suffering, and I’ve cried a billion tears. But why isn’t this pushing me to lose weight? It should be enough to get me to lose weight quick smart but I can’t do it. If this can’t get me to lose weight, then what is?! Why won’t my mind let me do it?
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Everyone is different but I know for me, if people make negative comments about me for something then it makes it harder to fix it because I feel ashamed. However, if people are supportive and helpful to me changing than I feel more confident to change myself. I think you need to fit a support group for overweight people and cut the negative people out.
Have you considered seeing a psychologist?
Weight loss is not just a physical journey, it is a psychological journey too! There are some mental and emotional barriers that you need to get through so you're in the right mind set.
Oh no shame and guilt will never ever motivate you. You really think it would?
Only positive feelings motivate you. Enjoy it, accomplish goals, do it and feel the endorphins, see results, those things will get you on track.
I was like this and started on ozempic injections & it is amazing and kick started me off on losing weight. There is a shortage at the moment but once it’s available and in stock for firstly diabetics and then for obesity, it’s amazing. Speak with yoour Dr about it.
People like you make me sick get of your ass and get to a gym and eat right doctors are not allowed to prescribe ozempic to those that want it to lose weight
That is completely untrue. Ozempic has been approved in Australia as a weight loss drug for those battling obesity. Yes, it was originally only for diabetics, however Obesity is also a chronic illness and please, do not go and lug it into a category of lazy overeaters. There are various health and mental health conditions that can result in obesity. Obesity can lead to diabetes, heart disease and premature death. A medication like Ozempic can aid in weightloss and should be allowed to be prescribed to those who need it without judgement.
Because it doesn't mate.
I know, trust me, I know.
Start small. Buy a cardio exercise equipment. Bike, treadmill, rower are the easiest. Doesn't have to be an expensive one. Buy leggings and workout tops, enough to get you through a week. Kmart is fine, and actually pretty comfy. I get away with 3 sets because I wear them twice. Don't set a "time" to workout, set a routine. My work varies. I might get home at 4:30, or 9:30. Either way I get home, get changed and do my workout. Don't expect big things from yourself straight away, it took time to put this weight on and it'll take time to get it off. If you can only do 5 minutes, do 5 minutes everyday. The following week aim for 6 minutes and so on. I started at 3km/hr and have worked up to 4.5km/hr as a comfortable pace. I can do 4.5 without incline pretty easily so now I do 4.5 with a 2% incline. For 5 minutes each night I drop the incline and push for more speed, currently working at 4.7. For another 10 minutes I increase the incline and go back to 3km/hr. I make the swaps about when I need to. When my feet hurt or my legs are burning is when I drop the speed and raise the incline. It's still working out but gives those bits that hurt a bit of a rest before getting back to business.
I've also almost got my eating under control using low sugar high protein shakes, choosing the darkest chocolate and sticking to portion control, minimising pasta and bread and rice choosing konjac noodles, Bergen low carb bread and having leafy greens instead of mashed potatoes. Taking keto style recipes and minimising the fat so they are both low carb and low fat.
That's a what to, for me the how to was making my mind up that I'm missing a lot when I go travelling. I'm not fit so I can't hike. I want to see Carnarvon Gorge, Blackdown Tablelands, the cave pools out the back of the Gold Coast etc but they're off limits if I can't walk to them. I want to be confident in swimmers so that when I hike my ass out to them I can enjoy being there. I want my knees to stop hurting, my feet to stop hurting, I want to wear nice clothes that fit properly. On their own they weren't enough though. It's that missing out because of my lack of fitness which has my ass in gear.
The shame isn't a motivator. The goal is what will get you started. Take a few days to think on it, use a vision board if it helps. Make a play list of songs that make you want to move. Pink is good, I quite like a bit of 5 Finger Death Punch too. Some Gwen Stefani for the push to increase speed, a slow down to Elton John when I need a rest.
Call this your "planning" phase while you work on the goal. Then you'll be unstoppable.
Thankyou for sharing your journey. I’m struggling to motivate myself & what you’ve written here is really helpful 🤗
Stop making excuses and just start, I honestly don’t feel sorry for anyone who won’t help themselves.
I know it’s brutal but it’s the truth.
I put on extra kilos after quitting smoking but I didn’t like the way I felt so I did something about it and lost the weight and then some.
I won’t sugar coat it, being overweight is unhealthy and I only had myself to blame.
Do it today and stop wasting valuable time crying over it.
Eat right and exercise
Please realise there is so much more to you than how much you weigh. I put on weight whenever I am struggling emotionally. Then of course because I have put on weight, I struggle more and the cycle is reinforced. I would suggest a dietician or even a Psychologist who helps you to recognise your triggers. I would get away from the scales and go off the size of your clothing instead of weighing yourself as your weight is influenced by so many things including time of month and it can be disheartening to focus on a number. Make sure you check Thyroid etc. with doctor. I discovered I was B12 deficient so felt tired and vitamin deficiency can affect metabolism. Swap unhealthy snacks at the beginning e.g. nuts instead of chips and have those snacks readily available. Be careful you are not actually storing weight as you are hitting starvation mode. I made this mistake. I have lots of other tips as I've travelled this road before <3 Ignore the rude comments, people who think its easy are ignorant. Most importantly your worth does not have anything to do with your weight ((hugs))