So there’s a few people in my life particularly work, who I feel talk to me as though they see a need to teach me, for me to learn something from them because they are obviously much more knowledgeable on the subject than I am. Could it be that this is my issue or are there people out there that actually do this?
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If you are getting this from mulitple people, it may be how you carry yourself. If you aren't asserting your knowledge or showing confidence, people may think you don't know things.
However if you are doing the above things, maybe people in your work place are just condescending dicks 🤷♀️
Work with confidence girl xx
I'm a quiet, non confrontational person. I have definitely noticed that people who have a more soft spoken temperament are often severely underestimated (particularly in a professional setting). I used to humor this kind of behaviour because it was easier but I realised I was actually reinforcing the idea in their minds that I needed teaching.
You've gotta speak up, a simple "I've actually got a pretty firm understanding of this topic, Gary. I'll ask you if I ever need something explained" does the job nicely.
Some people definitely are like this on purpose though. They seem to have an over inflated sense of their own intelligence and importance, they usually come across as very arrogant and condescending.
I'm also a bit quiet and take a while to build confidence in a new environment and I also notice this. I just say something like thank you, I'm fine, I will come and find you if I need you". Now I am in a management position before I explain anything to new staff I say, "Are you familiar with this, have you done this before?" If they say yes then I observe how they do it, if we want it done differently then I just say, "That's great but we do it just a bit differently...". That is better for confidence building rather than treating people like they know nothing. The other thing my daughter experienced in her workplace was another girl trying to make herself look good in front of the manager so would often treat my daughter like she didn't know what she was doing. Luckily that manager saw through it. So if you don't think it's a confidence problem it could be your workmates trying to impress management and move up the ladder with leadership skills. A good manager will see through it.
No. There are absolutely people like this out there. We have a particular one at my daughters dancing who likes to tutor people on how to do hair, the products she uses hair and make up all the time without being asked but awkwardly in reality she isn’t really one to be giving advice.
There are definitely people like this!
When I had my son a family friend was constantly jumping in to educate me about baby raising or to correct me if I did something 'wrong'.
She was the last person who should've been dishing out parenting advice lol.