Hi ladies, this isn't parenting related but I need advice on what to do about my younger brother. He is 20 years old. He still doesn't have a license but purchased a car a few months ago. He now drives it everywhere unlicensed. He has already had 2 minor crashes, into the kerb and a bollard in the car park. I have confronted him about this and he laughs it off and then gets angry that I am telling him off. I was trying to talk to him the other day and he admitted he has driven drunk on several occasions. Blind drunk! I'm at a loss as to what I should do! Clearly the message isn't sinking in and talking to him is like talking to a brick wall! I'm worried he will kill someone. I only live around the corner and I certainly wouldn't want him to hit me or my daughter. What can I do? Can I report him to the police or do they have to catch him in the act? He doesn't listen to mum or dad either.
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My best friend who was my cousin was like this. She would have like 8 drinks at the bar then drive home because "she wasn't drunk and didn't drink that much". She was totally ignorant to how much over the limit she would be and how dangerous her actions were. One night when I knew she was getting into her car to drive home drunk I called 000 and dobbed her in. I warned them to stay anonymous and they told her that someone had reported erratic driving. She got done and has never drank drive again. I suggest you do the same. For example if you know he has some kind of usual routine like Friday nights he goes to so and sos house you could wait near his house and follow him and when you see him leaving call the cops. Or you could go to the tops and just give them his information and address and licence number, if they are in the area and see him they will pull him over for random breath test. Other option is to take him to the morgue or to get a public speaking in like a mother who had lost her son in an accident. Get someone with a first hand story to talk to him.
Also is it possible to give him a lift? Maybe tell him if he's too drunk to drive just call you up?
Report him before he kills someone or himself! He has NO insurance either so if he seriously injured someone they wouldn't be able to receive the insurance money.
Call the local police and give them the rego number - they don't even have to catch him driving drunk, if he has no license then driving any time of the day will be sufficient. They may even be able to impound his vehicle. Drunk or not, unlicensed driving is dangerous and illegal. If he had an accident he would be in serious trouble.
My partner got done DD at the start of the year, and yes it sucks, he could have lost his job, he also now has to stay away from us 4 nights a week as he works 2 hours away and without his licence he has to stay with a relative closer to his work, but you know what I would much rather deal with this (and we have another year of no licence to go) then if he had killed someone or himself, if I had been awake when he went for his drive I would have dobbed him in myself. Its stupid and dangerous and the fact he hasn't held a licence is a big no no, he doesn't know the road rules no matter what HE thinks. Dob him in before he kills himself or even worse someone else. It seems like he needs to learn his lesson the hard way, it just depends how hard that way has to be