I think you need to give a lot of control to them at this age being so close to being an adult. "I'm going to trust you to be mature enough to work this out for yourself but if A, B or C happens then that proves to me you're not mature enough and we will go back to my rules"
I have no idea 🤷♀️ still what’s reasonable as I’m pretty strict and sole parent of 3 2 other younger ones what times does everyone else say !! It’s hard when a lot of other kids do whatever they want I’m seen as a tirant
I didn’t have one at 17, I was working until 11pm or midnight, if I was out with friends or at a pub I had to be home before my dad went to bed, around 10 or 11pm so they knew where I was. My parents were very very strict on me before that though, but by 17 it really was up to me as long as I didn’t disturb their sleep and it was more about respecting younger siblings.
Have an almost 18yo here. So mon-fri there are no curfews, simply because he either works or has football training. On school holidays there is a bit more freedoms as long as we know where he is. Weekends are a bit more chilled. Saturday night he'll be with either friends or his gf. He's usually home by say 12am.
This is all about communication. Your little one isn't so little anymore. They need you to be there for them in very different now.
At 17, no curfew on weekends but "call me when you need a ride" will be a thing. Or text me and ket me know where you're staying.
On school nights 10:30pm. As a teen I used to work until 10pm on school nights.
Depending what time they need to be up for school I'd say 9 or 10pm on school nights. Of course we would prefer them home at 8pm but it's just not going to happen.
Weekends may differ depending on what they are doing, but just ask to be kept informed of their where about. If you have to put a time limit on weekends then suggest 11pm, then settle for midnight, teen will feel like they have won a little
No curfew for a 17 year old. I moved out of home by 16 and my parents were very strict growing up.
17 is the year before being officially an adult so my personal thoughts are it’s the year to nurture their independence and be there if things don’t go so well.
I think it depends on what they are doing , and how mature they are. My kids will be in Yr 12 at school when 17 so i think monday - thursday will be 10 ish, (again not hard and fast, it will be situational) weekends I think so will let them go, I will just want to know by 10 ish what time they might come home so i know when i should worry. I think you need to have open communication to understand what they are up to. they have to respect the home , not wake up everyone and behave like adults.
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I think you need to give a lot of control to them at this age being so close to being an adult. "I'm going to trust you to be mature enough to work this out for yourself but if A, B or C happens then that proves to me you're not mature enough and we will go back to my rules"
I have no idea 🤷♀️ still what’s reasonable as I’m pretty strict and sole parent of 3 2 other younger ones what times does everyone else say !! It’s hard when a lot of other kids do whatever they want I’m seen as a tirant
I didn’t have one at 17, I was working until 11pm or midnight, if I was out with friends or at a pub I had to be home before my dad went to bed, around 10 or 11pm so they knew where I was. My parents were very very strict on me before that though, but by 17 it really was up to me as long as I didn’t disturb their sleep and it was more about respecting younger siblings.
Have an almost 18yo here. So mon-fri there are no curfews, simply because he either works or has football training. On school holidays there is a bit more freedoms as long as we know where he is. Weekends are a bit more chilled. Saturday night he'll be with either friends or his gf. He's usually home by say 12am.
This is all about communication. Your little one isn't so little anymore. They need you to be there for them in very different now.
My 17 year olds curfews vary depending on what he's doing. He checks in with me and I always know where he is .
At 17, no curfew on weekends but "call me when you need a ride" will be a thing. Or text me and ket me know where you're staying.
On school nights 10:30pm. As a teen I used to work until 10pm on school nights.
I'd say 830.
Depending what time they need to be up for school I'd say 9 or 10pm on school nights. Of course we would prefer them home at 8pm but it's just not going to happen.
Weekends may differ depending on what they are doing, but just ask to be kept informed of their where about. If you have to put a time limit on weekends then suggest 11pm, then settle for midnight, teen will feel like they have won a little
No curfew for a 17 year old. I moved out of home by 16 and my parents were very strict growing up.
17 is the year before being officially an adult so my personal thoughts are it’s the year to nurture their independence and be there if things don’t go so well.
I think it depends on what they are doing , and how mature they are. My kids will be in Yr 12 at school when 17 so i think monday - thursday will be 10 ish, (again not hard and fast, it will be situational) weekends I think so will let them go, I will just want to know by 10 ish what time they might come home so i know when i should worry. I think you need to have open communication to understand what they are up to. they have to respect the home , not wake up everyone and behave like adults.