I am newly separated from my husband - it has not been a very pleasant separastion. Part of that is my husband has chosen only to see our children - 4 & 2 - once a month for only 2hrs. This has broken my heart, & my 4yo particularly has struggled at times. How do I explain why they can't see Daddy more & still keep them positive about him? Any strategies or advice would be appreciated
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Daddy loves you and is really busy but is looking forward to seeing you when he can??
Dunno, sorry, this must be so tough for you all.
But I will say it's early days and things do get easier.
Give them time and they will adjust. In the mean time spend as much time as u can with them, I know it's hard being a single mum and trying to spread your time but as long as you put in the effort that's all that matters. And let them know that because daddy isnt living there that he can't see them as much as they would like him to. Lots of cuddles always helps to :-), if you stay positive they will but they might figure out that he wasnt there on their own but let them never say anything bad about him to them just explain as it is in child friendly terms with out any nastiness behind it (which I'm sure you know and will do anyway).