Hi,
It’s a weird one. Have been with my husband for 10 years. I love him. But I don’t know if I am in love with him anymore. We have three beautiful kids, he is my best friend, and I care about him deeply but I’m just not sure I am in love with him anymore. I spoke with my best friend and she wondered if I was just a bit bored. I don’t really know? Can anyone share their experiences?
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You most likely just need to 'date' each other again. The stress of life, jobs, kids etc takes its toll and 10yrs is a very common time for people to get bored, feel the spark is gone and seperate.
You need to date each other again, rediscover your relationship or get to now each other again if you have both grown a bit.
Give it a go before calling it quits
I think its a question of what you want? Do you constantly want to be chasing the "high" of a new relationship or are you willing to ride the roller-coaster of a life long relationship? Meaning you will have times where there are lows and times where there are highs?
Personally I don't think love comes naturally, lust and excitement comes naturally and generally dies out eventually...but love takes work.
Good luck ❤
I think it becomes a different kind of love. I’ve been with my husband for nearly 33 years and been married 30 years. I love him dearly, he frustrates the hell out of me sometimes. Our children are all adults and moved out of home so we are empty nesters. He is my best friend and I couldn’t imagine my life without him and not waking up to him every day. We do still have sex a few times a month, sometimes it is sex other times we still make love. Like I say your love changes over the years.