Hi. Could you post a question for me please?
I think my son (trans. Female at birth) may have been molested as a child by my ex husband.
He has pretty much no memory of his childhood.
I have been researching signs, and there were many. I dismissed them as being a shy and anxious child. I did take them to a child psychologist, against my husband's wishes.
My older child had lots of extracurriculars so I had to leave this younger one with their Dad often.
My ex had a friend who was jailed for kiddy porn.
I know! I was a simpleton! I trusted my husband. He is the biological father of both my kids.
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I'm sorry you're going through this x I think a psychiatrist can help if they are blocked memories? I'm not sure he would want to unblock them if it did happen but if you want him to be charged then it will need to happen.
If the signs were then and you know what they are then more than likely yes. You need to go to a psychologist and see what advice they have and police if you remember anything. Your husbands friend could have footage of your child. Can you speak to police with what you do know? They will prob unblock at some point. Poor kid
Please get your child the help she needs before it’s too late.
The help HE needs. The child is trans, was female at birth, is now a boy. Be respectful.
Hang on... trauma can have multiple causes and exhibit in different ways. Be careful not to plant memories. If he has found ways of coping we also do not want to retraumatise him. You mentioned a Psychologist being involved and this is where I would leave it. If there is something there it will eventually come out but I would not pursue it for the wellbeing of your child.
Take yourself and your son to a psychologist. Do not discuss this with your child. If he has blocked it out it is because his mind cannot cope with the memories. If he has been molested it is not your fault or his fault. The fault lies 100% with the perpetrator. You both need professional help. Maybe you are wrong (and I hope you are) but not having memories of his childhood means something and it needs to be dealt with. I wish you all the best.