My husband seems to just live his life, work eat sleep and not care about our home. Like we don’t even have 4 matching chairs around our dining table.
I try and get my kids to tidy their rooms, I’m trying to update furniture in our house, make extra money so we can renovate the house - have an extra bathroom. I’m always the one discussing this, always the one asking kids to tidy, to turn off lights to save money. I’m just tired and wish my husband wanted this as much as I do. He’s very laid back.
My son is a teenager now and has definitely outgrown his room. Do I just keep pushing this to get what I know our family needs?
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Some men don't really think of things like that. My husband definitely does not care about looks of the house, only functionality. We had kitchen cupboards that were 3 different colours at one stage so I bought some paint and painted them all one colour. I didn't ask him, I just did it. For bigger stuff you just have to be direct and a bit pushy. Show him some beds in your budget and say you're thinking of that for sons room, he's outgrown his bed and needs a new one. Then you can do the smaller stuff yourself. Could even upcycle furniture you have already make it fun.
I wouldn't even notice if someone didn't have 4 matching chairs around their dining table lol. Some people just are more relaxed about house stuff than others. I'd just do whatever you want to do around the house and accept the fact he doesn't care as much as you do and that's ok.