I’m curious if this is a common feeling, as sometimes I feel like people look at me weirdly or question my feelings and honestly I can’t explain it.
I have no interests in relationships. I was in a long term relationship, had a child and I’ve just never been interested in dating again. The occasional hook up sure but I never want anything past that.
I get asked a lot now my child is getting older, I’m a single mum and in my 30’s, when I’ll start dating, ask about marriage and more kids etc. when I tell them I have no interest, they just assume I have underlying issues and insecurities but in all honestly I don’t want a partner. I love not having worries of relationship issues, I love the ‘freedom’. Most of all, I love not having to share my daughters time with other people. I’m 100% focused on her and that’s priority. I was a young mum so when my child is old enough, I’ll still be young enough to travel and do so many amazing things and that excites me more.
Am I one of few?
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I think it is uncommon. Everyone I know who's gone through a separation seems to have one goal - find a new partner asap.
I actually think it's awesome though, being content and fulfilled with yourself is empowering. Better that than settling for some idiot because you can't be single!
I wouldn't take it personally.These people are projecting their own thoughts and beliefs onto you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you think and feel, just like there is nothing wrong with the way they think and feel about it
I think there’s a lot of us living exactly the same way. It’s actually quite normal for me, if I meet someone in their forties or a single mum I would assume it’s their choice (whether that’s due to priorities, stress, time, having a good routine, enjoying your life as it is, not wanting to bother with the shit dating pool cycle etc etc)
Me too.
I love my life.
It’s so peaceful, quiet and relaxing.
I manage the money, no one there to spend the last dollars when you’re having a bad week.
When I bought my place, I’d didnt have to consult anyone, just bought what I wanted.
Small meals, less washing, less mess.
No one to ruin my kids with examples of bad behaviour like anger, violence, racism, making fun of people, drinking too much etc.
They see their father, just not often enough to have an impact on their behaviour.
Yes, it would definitely take an amazing man to bring me out of my single bliss lol
This sounds like me! After leaving an abusive marriage it took me years to find myself and be happy again. There was a year or two where I thought about the possibility of having a relationship, but then I decided it was easier not having to worry about the crap that could potentially come with a relationship. Knowing my luck, I’d end up with someone even worse than my ex. Yes, there are times when I think it would be nice to have someone to lean on when things are tough, but it doesn’t last long. Any man to catch my attention would have to be pretty damn amazing!
Yes I’ve had those moments too, occasionally, but they always pass lol
Yes, my marriage was toxic, on both sides, we brought out the worst in each other.
I also can’t imagine blending a family, I couldn’t do that to my kids.
It’s hard enough having divorced parents, two households, so being the main caregiver, I don’t want them to have bend for another family.
It’s also empowering to move up the career ladder, study, kick goals and not financially need a man.
Yup, it would take a lot lol
I don't think it's uncommon at all, so many people are happy single. I was single for 8 years after my ex, we were together since teens, had kids young and I felt so trapped. I loved being single and hated the thought of another relationship but I met my now husband and it just felt right, I don't feel trapped at all with him. I hated it when people would say things like don't worry you will find a man one day or even get jealous of me around their husbands as if I'm going to try something. No thanks lol. Stop worrying about what people think and enjoy your life.