I honestly dont know where to start... ok so i have two beautiful kids to a man that i feel is the devil. It started a few years ago when we separated due to DV, i couldnt take it anymore i was so afraid of him. Anywho he kept the kids no one would help! Police, legal aid the courts. No one did a damn thing. he kept them from me for a year and a half dangling them infront of my face. it was torture. he got a new gf who he started abusing physically aswell, i found out about it and decided to just go and pick them up. Anywho i did this and he took me to court (go figure he had legal aid in a matter of weeks) I won full custody through the interim (OMG YAYYYY :) ) well thats when the abuse started all over again. Ive been receiving threats from him ever since i won custody he never turned up to court after that. He continues to ask to see the children even though i have court orders saying NO CONTACT. I tried explaining to him that he has no contact because the judge wants to ensure his mental health is under control. he doesnt believe me. he still swears hes done nothing wrong to the kids. hes never touched me or his gf.... (There is hospital and police reports and a docs report) 2 years on i seriously cannot take anymore. he got himself locked up and blames me cause he cant see the kids. his own mother believes his antics im so done. i do not know what to do. I dont hate the man but i wish he would just be a normal human being. he hasnt paid child support in two years. every time he offers i give my account details and see nothing. i stopped giving them over in the end. he was exempted from paying child support after i showed them the threats and abusive messages he sends me stating ill never get a cent blah blah or he will kill me if i take the house. He claims this is all normal behaviour cause i wont let him see the kids. the list goes on for days. I told him recently i wanted my part financially from the house cause im in debt for it. All of a sudden hes selling it cheap to take me to court. I am so angry and frustrated my kids miss out because hes a selfish lying piece of crap. he couldnt care less about them. He never calls them but can message me daily. WHY? what have i done so wrong to deserve this guy for the rest of my life. im so tired i could cry. WHAT DO I DO? sorry its all over the place im trying to cut it short as possible.
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Firstly block his number! You have a no contact order so that means there is no reason for him to have your number!
Change your number, move and get on with your life.
why does he have your number if there's no contact order? geez not hard to change a number and only give it to those you trust. social media has blocking abilities too, as well as basically invisible profile options if he creates fake profiles to add you. Is this a fake question?
If he's an abusive person and you have a no contact order, you need to let it go. Change your number, move if you need to, the courts can find you if it ends up down that path. Find legal aid for yourself to deal with the house situation. The more you allow him to continue contact, the longer this will go on. Yes it'll be sad his children won't know him, but if he's such a bad person it's probably a good thing. There are plenty of other men out there to be a role model for your children. Good luck :)