I need help from the sisterhood..
My husband and I have been married for years, have 2 amazing kids, one of whom is 16.
We've just been really struggling to find alone time to work on our marriage with the kids in the house! More specifically.. How do you all manage to have sex with a teenager in the next bedroom?? She goes to bed after us, wants to hang with us when we're up (which is lovely), she doesn't hang out with her friends outside school. We do go on date nights but when we get home, we always feel she's going to hear us in the bedroom!! We've recently moved house and previously had her bedroom on a different level, but now she's literally right next door. .
Is there any solution other than to move house? Would you be honest with her and just say we need some time alone?? We've tried having' home date nights' in the lounge room but always feel we're going to be caught! !
I know it sounds superficial but it is starting to really affect our marriage and connection, we both want to but feel we cant. Please help!
How to find 'adult time' with husband without the teenager knowing?
How to find 'adult time' with husband without the teenager knowing?
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We have an old house with thin walls, 17 year old step sons room is next to ours. There is a large wall length cupboard along that wall and in his room there are cupboards on that joining wall. Get a TV so you can blame that if she hears anything lol. It doesn't stop us having sex at all we just have to be quiet, no porn worthy moans and groans which is not what we do anyway. The only problem we have is partner is a heavy breather lol.
My parents sent us to grandmas a lot at this age! They also took lots of nights away themselves.
But it’s also ok for her to know you need adult time. Contrary to the popular ‘gross my parents have sex’ mentality, I found it reassuring my parents had sex. Not that I wanted to hear them, but it didn’t ick me out when my parents were clear and firm, we need time to ourselves!
I'm in the same boat and we have become more creative and use our dates out of the house to have sex. It could be on a picnic rug, in the water at a swimming hole or even in the car. It's not always ideal but it keeps us connected and can be fun. Also we have a lot of shower sex (quietly!) And turn the TV up really loud if we have sex in the bedroom. We generally have early morning sex, or even middle of the night (3-4 am) so we know the teens are definitely asleep!
Is it possible to have a night away sometimes? Even once a year for a dirty weekend can do wonders for a marriage
Way too much info I don't need the visuals
Don’t read it then. She is answering the question.
Gawd, the old 'don't read it then' mantra ,how the fuck will anyone knows what it says if they don't read it? By the time they're half way thru its too damn late. Dumbest comment ever from the 'don't read it then' commenter. FFS 😂
I didn't read this comment until I saw the reply saying way too much info, I thought well now I HAVE to read it! Not very overly descriptive though I'm disappointed lol.
Yuk, way to get yourself arrested.
Geez, what if a family came to the swimming hole or picnic place?
Worst than those perverts who masturbate in public.
Yeah we're not idiots and don't have sex in public parks. 🙄 we live in the country so there are a million places to be alone.
You are completely mad if you think everyone only ever has sex in their bedroom. Or you are very boring.
Sex is an essential part of keeping a relationship together, so will not apologise for having a rock solid marriage.
What are you? 5? Grow up! Adults have sex and there was nothing descriptive at all.
Put tv in the bedroom and off you go. We have kids and teens and we need that connection. We have sex 3-4 nights a week so kids definitely don't stop us. Book a hotel/a few night away and get kids to friends/grandparents!
Lock on your door, nights away and tv on