Hi IM's,
Is anyone very happily married to a man but constantly thinks about women?
I wasn't very lucky in relationships & had some bad ones, I even had encounters with women which I enjoyed but never thought of an actual relationship with a woman.
7 years ago I met my soul mate, we've been very happily married for 4 years & he always treats me with respect, he's an extremely hard worker in his career & at home, our sex life is awesome & has been since the beginning. We are both middle aged.
I'm concerned with myself at the amount I think about women, I admire the female body & think it's amazing & beautiful, I fantasise about touching & holding a woman on a regular basis.
I can't see myself without my husband & we deeply love each other.
My Husband is quite old fashioned & doesn't understand males being with males or females being with females, where as I have friends who are in relationships with the same sex.
Is this just normal thoughts or am I Bi?
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Fantasies are normal but don't need to be lived. You've said you can't imagine life without your partner. Just accept that you appreciate the female form. You don't need to act on all your thoughts. As for being bi, will your sexual orientation affect your feelings for your partner?
Not normal, I would say you’re bi.
Plus you’ve been with women previously, so that also very much indicates youre bi lol
But does it really matter, you’re happily married?
If you had never been with a woman, I would say it might be a bit hard to ignore the urges or you might need to break up and explore it or you’ll always wonder, but since you have explored it and chose to marry your husband, what is there to worry about?
We all have different fantasies.....
Whatever you do, don’t try to have your cake and eat it too.
I could have written this myself except hubby is okay to fantasize the idea of a threesome with another woman but I don’t think we’d ever end up acting on it.
I recently read an article about this and just because you haven’t actually had a relationship with a woman doesn’t mean you are not bi. But I admit now I really know I am, yet I’m married I do regret not having a chance to explore it more before marrying.
Personally I will just every so often do a solo fantasy when hubby is not home and indulge myself for a while and though it’s not the same, it works for me.
Wishing you the best
I would say your bisexual.
I had the same thoughts while in my marriage. we broke up due to other factors however it gave me a chance to explore that side of me.
it took another 2 years for me to realise I am 100% bisexual and could happily be in a relationship with another woman. I’m yet to say it to the world however I’ve been in your shoes. I relate.
It’s ok to feel what you’re feeling and it’s ok to have those naturally curious thoughts.