Does anyone else hate that their man wanks..
I think I am losing it.. I obsess about when he might be doing it. I rush around after work to get home before him. I hide all the lube and conditioners etc, anything that I think he might be able to use.
I would never tell him not to do it, but I feel panicked when I have to go out that he might have one.. I feel like he doesn't want me when he does. He has a manual job and is tired a lot.. I have a very very hight sex drive, he moans about us having it too often.... Once or twice a week .
I stay in the house and won't go out if he isn't.. all to try stop him wanking...
He says it's who men relieve stress.., and sometimes can't be arsed with sex.
I don't have an issue with porn .we watch it together on occasions, it's just that I wish he would want me more .
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Yep. The issue for me is that I'm not getting enough. So if he's doing it himself and not being arsed with me then I am not ok with that.
Calm down. Masturbation is important for people. I have a vert active and fulfilling sex life, but when i’m alone and stressed i will play with myself (i’m a woman). It relaxes me. My partner knows i do this, he also does it, in the shower mostly. It’s normal and natural and trying to stop someone from being able to do it is disgusting. Your poor husband. You need to get some therapy to help you with your obsession. Masturbation is not about being attracted or not to your spouse, it is about relaxtion, destressing and self love. Discovering new things that feel good. For me, it helps to increase my sex drive because i feel sexy afterwards, i can’t wait to get my man.
Take a breathe and get a therapist to help you deal with your issues.
This is not healthy behaviour at all
Wow, that all seems very obsessive to me. Not to make you feel worse but he doesn’t have to masterbate at home - he could do it in the car, work bathrooms. You can’t watch him 24/7. I think you might need some therapy to help you.
You are not reacting in a very healthy way. It’s way over the top.
Nobody owes you sexy everyday, your behaviour is obsessive.
And I have a high sex drive too.
I really think you need to examine your inner values and thought processes in regards to sex.
HAHAHAHA comedy hour for this chick 😂
Darling, your behaviour is verging into abuse territory. No, actually, I'm sorry but it is abuse...
You're stooping as low as removing personal care items so he can't use them, you're not allowing him any privacy and you're refusing to leave the house if he doesn't all in attempt to control him and his bodily autonomy.
You might not be explicitly verbalising that he can't wank but you are actively trying to stop him, so yes, you are telling him he can't.
Please get some help. Your husband doesn't deserve this and you are going to make yourself crazy if things continue.
Yep, if her husband was writing in, we’d tell him is wife is controlling and abusive, and that he needs to get out of there.
Please seek some help
Yeah this is crazy behaviour. I get that it comes from trying to hold on and create the relationship you want, but it’s very unhealthy. You have to realise that if he wants to cheat, wank, steal, gamble, smoke etc he will find the 2 minutes it takes if that’s what he wants to do no amount of control or watching like a hawk from you will stop it.
If you want a good relationship you have to let him do what he wants and watch, and if it doesn’t serve you then make your decision.
I also think wanking is separate to fucking, so what you’re doing definitely won’t increase sex for you but the sexual overbearing will definitely turn him off wanting sex with you.
I believe there are control issues for you. You're going well out of your way to make his life difficult. What's that about? Have you considered he has his own stash of lube? That he uses when not at home? I feel for him. You're really sounding unhinged
Seek support for yourself. Sometimes I just want to play with myself and I would not take it kindly if my partner tried to stop it.