Touchy subject to some,but I was placed in the foster care system in the late 90’s,I was moved from foster family to foster family over many year from the age if 11. This one family I was housed with for many months at the age of 12-13 had older teen/adult kids in the house,the son who was 18-19 at the time was coming down stairs into my bedroom,waking me during the middle of the night and telling me to get on the floor and having intercourse with me 2-3 nights a week. I felt it’s always been consensual,until recent years I’ve felt anger that someone took advantage to me in such a vulnerable state and age,it still makes me feel sick and depressed and I cry often of the memories I have of what he was doing me at the time. His mother was actually my worker is Dhhs and took her work home (me),so many years later and the triggers of memories are really bringing me down and how I function as a single mum, should I pursue legal advice against the department and also with the police,,I question myself all the time was I the only one who suffered at the hands of this man,was their others,20Years plus since it all but my life has suffered in so many ways from his actions
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I think you should ring a local police station or bravehearts and speak to them
And finally get it all out. The police can look into this man and see what he has on his record also. This wasn’t your fault. His poor mum would be horrified knowing what her son was doing to you. All while she was trying to help. How awful for you to have to
Go through this. You need to tell someone, if you are comfortable. It may also help if there is any other cases against this man. It will help with your healing. It will show your kids that this isn’t ok. It will help protect other kids from this happening to them or even his own kids. You need to be strong to do this, if you can. Remember it wasn’t your fault. He took advantage of your age and situation. Please reach out and report it and seek help for yourself. Once you do, it may help you to get Past the suffering and keeping it all inside. It will also get the justice for you that you deserve. I’m sure there would be many more that he did this to. What if his mum still has kids in her care and he is around them. Please speak up, to help yourself and other kids who may not be able to speak up.
You’re so incredibly brave, as the comment above suggested, please seek out assistance from the police or bravehearts.
Good luck, I’m so proud of you, you’ve got this ♥️
Thankyou for some support I’ve found it very hard over this last week with tears continuously and sleepless nights,,I contacted SOCIT today and made an appointment for Monday to hopefully seek counselling and support through what has become the worst week of my life in over 10years,,having no one to ask for advice and encouragement in my situation has been very hard,even my mother has said just leave it it’s the past
You contacted someone, you made the first step, im sure that’s the hardest, I’ve never been through anything so traumatic. I can’t even begin to understand what you have been through and I’m sure counseling will be a painful road, working through all that pain, but I’m sure it’s going to be amazing on the other side. You deserve this help and support so, so much. I also wouldn’t listen to your mothers advice regarding this, as this occurred during a time you were in foster care, so she would probably rather you forget about the whole experience. But forgetting is not an option and burying it is not in your best interests. This reminds me of that poor little girl who was fostered and raped by the older son and became pregnant, so the father killed her. Thank god you lived through this incredibly dangerous situation.
Please let us know of your progress and I hope you get the justice you deserve.
Sending you love and light x
Please seek you’re file from DHHS. You have the right to see it and I think it is completely inappropriate that a case worker has had a client live with them. I would want to know who made this decision and were the appropriate checks completed in respect to the people living in the home. DHHS if they have not done this correctly should be held accountable for the trauma you have been through.
You are so brave and I hope you can get the support you need to move on and live a happy life.
My best friend went through this, memories of it tortured him for years, sadly he eventually lost his battle with depression.
I beg you to do what ever you need to to be able to heal even in just a small way ❤
I’m so sorry to hear this. You were not having intercourse you were being raped.
Please follow this up and seek support for yourself.
You’re so strong and brave you can do it.