Ok my partner and have a blended family I have 3 from previous relationship he gained custody of his 1 while we where together than went on to have our 1 together. We are partnered he works I'm @ home with kids house work etc recently it has become an issue where I'm being told that I don't contribute enough financially now all our bills are 50/50 I make do with what I receive on family benefit dnt receive parenting because he earns to much. I'm being made to feel as though worthless with what I do within the home and children It may not be financial but I do contribute. I have applied for as many jobs as I can night shifts being the only option as daycare fees would be to much for a full time job during the day I am responsible for the daycare fees ass was my choice to put child in care for 2 days
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Forgot to mention we have bought a home together
It shouldn't have to be 50/50 if your truly in a relationship. I broke up with a guy who earned a bucket load of money because he couldn't understand that I would loose all my benefits (caring for a severely disabled child) as soon as we shacked up because of his income. He wanted me to go 50/50 which would have been impossible even if I was working because he couldn't understand that I lived on a much lower income than him! Sit down with your partner find out how he really feels and tell him how you feel. Tell him how much it would cost for his kids care if you stopped doing it!
I think you need to have a serious think about this guy. What kind of 'man' doesn't want to support his family? Most men take pride in it. If you're at home taking care of the children what does he expect from you? 50/50 in this situation is ridiculous. If he's not happy about the situation why not suggest day care and helping you find work instead of demanding 50/50 in the bills? So very very selfish of him. That's not a partnership at all. You might as well sell your house and take 50% of the profits and go on your way .....
thankyou to all the wonderful IM's advice I am just as furious about the situation and will be having talk with partner hopefully he can see where I'm coming from...