Good evening mumma’s
I hope you can point me in the right direction regards to Master 16 nearly 17.
He is so short tempered (just ask the doors he has punched holes in them)
Which he says the most hurtful things to me, when is is so short temper 😓(as a mum as you can imagine it cuts like a knife) saying I moving out so I don’t have to put up with you and called me a cunt 😢 as you can imagine that didn’t go down too well !
sometimes says the most immature things , and he does know he is doing to upset someone and to get a reaction
he thinks he rules the eldest over his nearly 18 yo sister which doesn’t go down too well with her !
He is in yr 11.
He plays cricket Saturday and Sunday
But he plays his computer games which he is angrily vocal about it.
He was such a awesome child, him and his dad would hang out,and everyone thought he was a awesome person but now the drift between them is growing due to master nearly 17 attitude and how he speaks to everyone is growing and now no one wants to hang out with him
everyone loved hanging out with him, he and his dad had awesome relationship/friendship! But now it’s quite the opposite with everyone!
Please I don’t need negative comments I have enough alarms home plus I already feel like a shit parent
Master nearly 17
Wednesday, 23 February 2022 - 23:56
Master nearly 17
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4 Replies
Would he be open to seeking out some psychological help? Anger management, counselling, possible assessments for mental health issues such as anxiety or depression etc...
He's on a very self destructive path, it will only be so long before his explosive temper results in him ending up in legal trouble, him hurting himself or him hurting someone else.
not a shit parent.
id actually sit him down and see what he wants. if he gets angry, I'd just be like "ok, that's enough for today, we'll come back and speak another time".
id also look into headspace. helped a lot of my friends over the years
I think there is an element of tough live. Does he work? or contribute to the home? I would sit him down and talk to him like an adult. it's not about weather he is awesome or not. He needs to realise as an adult this behaviour isn't acceptable. As a young man, if he doesn't have a job and you are paying for phones, internet, car etc. Tell him there are tasks he must do and what the schedule is. If he wasn't to be treated like an adult give him the responsibility. I would also try and understand why he thinks he has such privilege to talk to you like that? My son went through a period of time around 14 where he was very full in, so in a calm moment i asked what did he need that i wasn't providing, and it could be physically, emotionally what ever. I also found that we had let his behaviour progressively grow by not addressing the minute he started to show flex. He might also have emotional regulation challenges so in a calm moment ask how he feels when he is angry and saying hurtful things. At some point he has to know it has to get better or he can look after himself . Good luck
Sounds like a fairly normal teen these days even with the C word. Teens suck basically. They do grow out of it though, well mine did, great when you get to the other side!