Looking for advice please and sorry for the long rant.
I work for and live with my partner. Since covid I have been working from home so have gone from seeing my partner in the office everyday to a little at night.
Last night he got home at 8.40pm (which is pretty late for him) and he was asleep on the couch by 9.10pm.
My children spend every 2nd weekend with their father - and that is this weekend.
I went to bed, 2 hours later he joined me. I told him I didn’t think I was important to him and only worth 30 mins of his time. After a while he said I’m sorry you feel that way. I then said a few more things like I would love it if you could come home at a reasonable time once every fortnight when we don’t have the kids, we don’t get time to do anything together anymore and I want to spend some time with you. After a few minutes of silence I asked him if he thought I was being ridiculous - his reply, now I’m
really angry - I bust my butt working all day and then I get home and you’re busting me. He went out to sleep in the couch, when I went out to talk to him he said he was done, and sent me to bed like a child.
He went work this morning and 13 hours later I have seen or heard nothing from him?
Is this normal behaviour - should I be feeling like I have done something wrong? There was absolutely no raised voice, just a few tears and now I feel like the worlds worst. I adore this man and am terrified of him leaving me. I will have no job snd nowhere to live with a 14 and a 12 year old. Please be nice, I’m so upset.
Advice please
Advice please
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Red flags 🚩🚩 The outburst is usually their guilt. I think he is cheating!
He wants you to think it’s you. It’s not you, it’s him and what he is hiding.
Why do men always have to be cheating or hiding something?
Is there no other possible reason why he had an uncharacteristically late day.
No other possible reason for him not reacting lovingly to a bombardment of feelings when he's was trying to get to bed in the middle of the night?
Couldn't it possibly just have been a situation caused by poor timing and heightened emotions after a long day?
What do you sacrifice to spend more time with him?
I know when I'm home late I'm already cranky because it's been a shit day. They happen and you've just got to keep slogging along until the work is done no matter how late it gets, and those days won't conveniently be on the weekend you want.
You work with him. Can you take more of the load that week so there's less to do on Friday so there's more chance of him being able to leave on time?
Book less work that week?
There has to be a better solution. Adding more stress onto him won't be it.
You need to start having a date night every week. Get out together as a couple and do something fun to nature the relationship.
He is at work not out partying and having fun. He can't help if he has had to work late. Cut the man some slack!!