I have been with my partner for 6yrs the moment I met him I knew he was the one. We have 2 beautiful babies together 1&2 and he has 2 kids already.
Over the last couple of years he has totally changed he is the most unreasonable person I feel like I’m constantly walking on egg shells cause I never know how he is going to react. He goes from 0-100 over nothing. I do 95% of all all house work which actually doesn’t bother me but he then turns around and constantly says how I do nothing, I sit around all day. Nothing I do is right. I’m sick of it. I want out. I literally am the most unappreciated person in this house….I pick his kids up from school I drop them off I watch them on school holidays I love them, but according to him he does it all which is impossible cause he works.
I also work FT hours so I have selected days off based of his kids so someone can watch them.
Last night was the last straw I have come back positive with the covid…I came home and told him and he left our babies with me and went to the gym and went shopping since being home he has gone to work and hasn’t even helped with the kids. Last night I said something about this and it blew up….boy did it hit the fan, he took my keys and my phone and I couldn’t get out, he didn’t physically touch me but I’m done living like this.
How do I take the steps to leave? I have asked him to leave he won’t go! He is going to make this so hard for everyone I can tell. He is telling me he will take the children. I don’t know how to take the first step to get out.
My mum has 2 bedroom I can go there but I have covid, I also have 2 dogs. So instead of just him leaving just one person he expects me and 2 babies and 2 dogs to leave. I can’t understand.
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Contact a domestic violence support service. This is a domestic violence situation, and you see in danger. Taking someone’s keys and phone is not ok. You can leave, even if you have Covid.
He makes it hard, it’s what they do. You have to do it because it’s better to have it done that fight over who should do the right thing. This won’t be a breakup where he does the right thing. Go to your mum. You can move while you have Covid. To leave a volatile living situation is ok, they’ve said it everywhere.
Next time ring 000 and tell them that you are being held against your will and that he has taken your phone and keys. You need to get an avo on him and not listen to his pathetic threats. He is a manipulator and narcissist. He is probably seeing someone else. My family members husband acts like this and he has another woman and child. He still sees! He is a pig! Try and ring 000 next time if you think he will grab your phone or keys. You need something in place. Ring the domestic violence hotline also.
Go to your parents once your covid is clear and get the hell away from this scum! what a jerk who does he think he is.
First of all I wanted to send you so much love and hugs.
I know what you are going through, I lived like this for the last 4 years, it only gets worse, leave now while you can. The first step is the hardest and it's scary as hell, sometimes it feels like we are going backwards not forwards and that the whole world is crumbling around us.... Those are the feelings I have felt over the last week, I left a week ago. He too refused to leave the house and to take the kids. It took me a year to work up the courage to finally go and realise that I wasn't going to have everything organised and perfect like I wanted, I just had to jump in head first and go.
As I write this, I'm homeless and sitting beside my 6 year old son on our hotel bed, we are here for 2 weeks but I don't know where we will go after that. I had to leave my job too so I'm currently unemployed too..... But you know what? Despite all of that I am so much happier right now, calmer, I even went out with a friend last night and enjoyed Zumba and dinner and the best part was, nobody yelled at me for being out too long or accused me of cheating when I got back, my little boy had a ball too, the ladies were all so lovely to us. I even got a call back about a job yesterday saying I was a short listed applicant so that lifted my spirits alot last night.
You can do this mama, pack up those kiddies when he ain't there and go to mum's, it will be hard but I promise you it's worth it and you will feel so much better soon. Best of luck and again I send so much love to you, I really hope it all works out for you.