I’m running on empty. Mother of two kids 3yrs & 7yrs. My husband tends to ignore me,. I’m simply invisible to him. we don’t share a bed, he won’t watch TV shows or movies with me. Barely speaks with me but will chat with mates for an hour or so. He’s full of broken promises - never follows through on what he agrees to. It always comes down to me begging to be noticed, arguing with him to be heard. He won’t say he loves me but his actions don’t show it either. We have no connection other than creating our kids together.
I’ve taken my rings off 4 months ago. I’ve moved into another room. My rings represent broken promises. No longer a symbol of our love once shared. I gave them back to him saying/explaining that once he believes he has reconnected with me & we’re functioning as a couple he should ask for my hand back in our marriage.
I’m going to marriage counselling by myself as he refuses to participate. I keep suggesting things we can do as a couple to try and reconnect. To rediscover each other. We’ve been together over 10 years & love shouldn’t be this hard & hurtful. It’s hurtful because I still love him & keeping hoping things will change. But I’m not sure it will…. I know that two happy homes for the kids is better than a home full of misery.
How do people live & survive sharing a house while declaring separation????
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You don't, it's the worst. Move out and get through it and get on with your life. You'll be happy again within a year, because this surely is not love or happiness.
As short a time as possible. It’s not great, try and be out of the house as much as you can be.
This was me 6 years ago with a 2 year old child. I moved out and we got divorced. I deserved more, my daughter deserved better then a tension filled house. I've never looked back