How to I help build my husbands confidence. My husband and I have been together 10 years. We have had our many ups and downs but love each other enormously.
At the moment my DH is in a massive downwards spiral, he feels lost, worthless and empty.
I would love it if anyone has some ideas on how to build his self worth. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated. What I've been trying isn't working and I'd love to other mummy's suggestions :)
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Has he been assessed for depression by his GP. I think that would be my first port of call. Also a course of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy could help, which the GP could refer to.
I will say this from experience that there is NOTHING you can do to help your husband, he must want to help himself. And the more you try to help him, protect him and love him the more of yourself you will lose. Change your tact & make him take responsibility and own his issues. If it comes to leaving so he can deal with the spiral he is in do it. My husband was exactly the same & I made excuse after excuse for him, hid things from him so as not to make his life more stressful and generally thought I was doing the right thing when I was trying to put his needs before me own. BIG mistake. I went to hell & back & became a person I didn't recognise trying to make his life less stressful. In the last twelve months I've just said sorry no more this is your journey & you might be happy to live like this but I'm not & I will leave if I have to. That was the best thing I could have done as he realised the problem was his, not mine & the responsibility to make himself better was his. We are getting there together, I didn't leave but he's realised that I will & that was enough for him to try to make his life better & happier. Be strong you can do it together, you might feel like a bitch doing it but it's for the well being of you both.