I don’t even know where to begin. Unfaithfulness, forgave, prison, coping, find out talking to said other person again. Asked outright and still denies. Says believe who you want I am sick of defending myself all the time. I think it is over?? I still love them so much. I have lost all will to keep going. I am hanging on my a thread, my only worry is if my kids will be ok without me. I think they will, I cry all day and night. I just want the pain to end.
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Sounds super toxic. You can definitely live without this person. The more toxic the deeper in you get and can't see any way out, that's dangerous, because there is a really much happier, healthier, nicer life for you. Take a break. Take a big step back. Out. It's not you, it's him. It's not love, it's dependence. It's a lot harder to get out of and get over, but you need to do it.
Um, get yourself some help from your dr and a psych. Cut the shit out of your life.
Your children WILL NOT be ok without you.
What, your life is over because of a lying, cheating piece of pondscum shit?
Do you think if he defends himself you can convince yourself it's not true?
What you need is some self worth.
I love my partner, we've been together 26 years and I don't want to imagine my life without him.
Bet your ass if he starts cheating and lying he'll be out the door quicker than a dog about to spew.
That doesn't mean it's not meant to hurt, of course it will. You need to be grieving the death of a failed relationship and who you thought he was. Not trying to salvage the pieces of the shitshow he is.
I would speak urgently to your GP to get a mental health plan together. It sounds like you want to hurt yourself and I don't think you want to hurt your children. You know that it will though and I think you're stuck in a rut.
The person who is psychologically hurting you is toxic to you and your children so I think you need to come up with a plan to take back your power.
Creating independence is hard work but seeing a counselor or psychologist can help support you. Surrounding yourself with people who are good for you, inspire you and are genuine with help you remain free. Moving away from the toxicity might be a good idea too.
A fresh start for all of you.
I wish you all the best but I feel you should see your GP.
If you do want to hurt yourself or require urgent attention, please call the police or ambulance.
No, your children will not be ok. Go immediately to tee hospital or a doctor, get help urgently. Your kids need you, don't make them grieve you for t h e rest of their lives. Go and get help now
Love yourself more then he does, and as much as your kids do
You deserve to be happy
Get the support you need and leave 💜
This happened to me, it’s absolutely soul destroying. I had no confidence , and somewhere deep down I accepted this behaviour, but in reality I deserved so so much better and so did my children. Unfortunately you have to come to the realisation he does not love you. We don’t do this to someone we love. That said it doesn’t mean your unlovable, let her have his sorry arse and you work on loving yourself, Get yourself up, fix that crown cause you are a role model for your children they love and need you.
I’d suggest getting yourself into some counselling to help talk these things through. Please reach out for help you are not alone and your kids need their mumma put your time and love into them, go live an amazing life.