I just got home from a weekend away with our 2 daughters. My husband (and father to daughters) had the house to himself and chose to have his friends over and their dogs. I came home to discover dog shit in 3 areas of our house, no grocery shopping had been done for the week (we both work full time), he had spent $250 of our money on food for himself and friends (we get our own spending money, he spend OUR money on this) and our dog appears to have an ear infection and something wrong with his backside (has been scraping along the ground). I told husband that I wasn’t happy about any of this and I don’t think I should come home to this. He thinks it’s unfair and he should be allowed to have a good time with his mates after working hard all week. I find it disrespectful to come home to this kind of a shit fight and to spend our money on himself and his friends. I work hard all week too! So, am I being unreasonable?
8 Replies
No, you aren’t being unreasonable. No way should house funds have been used without your knowledge. No way should you have found dog shit in the house, how did your dog get worms and click and collect isn’t that hard to organise.
Yes he should be able to have fun, but not at your expense. And he should be in charge of cleaning up after himself and the animal you left in his care.
Not unreasonable if you paid for your week away with your own money. It does sound easily fixed, just ask him to pick up the dog shit and put the money back for the food. It's not a big deal.
I think this entirely depends on your situation. I wouldn't care if hubby spent money hanging out with friends while I was away, and either would he if the situation was reversed. In fact, we'd encourage it. But it wouldn't stop us from being able to pay for our mortgage or anything.
I wouldn't be pleased about the dog mess, but it's easily fixed.
Groceries is the only thing I think is definitely an over reaction though. Do an online order for pickup if you can't get delivery. Have tuckshop if there isn't school lunch for tomorrow. Buy emergency milk and bread from the service station if you can't get to the supermarket after work or something.
Nope, having fun is one thing. But that doesn't include blowing the family budget and sorry but you're a parent. Fun's over, and you have jobs to do. Groceries and washing should have been done so the weeks set up and dog shit in the house is just disgusting.
Of course he should be allowed to let his hair down, everyone deserves to let loose now and then.
But that doesn't mean basic respect and consideration flies out the door!
You take care of your responsibilities first, you don't just blow a significant amount of joint money, you don't neglect your fucking pet and you don't leave piles of animal excrement or your house in a written off state for your spouse/kids to come home to.
That's disgraceful and I bet if the shoe was on the other foot, he'd be appalled...
You were gone one weekend. I'm sure the dog didn't suddenly develop butt issues or an ear infection due to his lack of care in such a short space of time.
The dog poo in the house is just gross!
But grocery shopping and spending the money wouldn't bother me one bit.
Let the man have some fun.
If the house was disgusting, next time just tell him to blow off steam at the end of the week at a mates place instead of them coming to yours.
Money side, it's a one-off. Who can honestly say they've never shouted a treat to their friends?
Worm your dog. It should be getting regularly wormed anyway.
NOPE. It’s fine to have a bit of fun, it’s not ok to trash the house (without cleaning it up) and screw the budget without at least a convo about it.