I am needing some honest, but not judgemental advice. I am a single mummy, have been for more years than I would care for really, with no end in sight. I have a male friend and on occasion we have taken it to the next step physically. Once again I find myself in the same position as before, in that I am needing that physical release. Is it wrong to do this? To enjoy having sex just for sex sake?! I was told once, that if I wanted to find that special someone than this was something I should not do. Also my mum found out and was not best pleased at all. Help!!!
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Definitely OK, have some fun. Just make sure you are both on same page so no feelings get hurt.
No way.. you are human, you have needs . As long as you are both on the same page with it not becoming anything more than sex go right ahead!
Noones business. As long as you're not putting yourself or your child in danger physically or mentally, go ahead.
Whatever you need to do to stay sane!! ;-)
My mum does this same thing.... asks me if I sleep with people. And seriously if I was rude I'd tell her to mind her own business but I'm not and just tell her no.
I dont think anyone has that right to know unless you decide to tell them. No matter if your a single mum or not. After all even single mummas need a little lovin ;)
I personally think its up to you and your friend.
Of course it's ok!! You are 2 consenting adults and as long as you are using protection and also being discreet you have nothing to be ashamed about!! Have fun lol
Is it OK? Sure thing. But I do think that men's brains are wired completely differently to a womans. And if you genuinely like the guy and perhaps want to pursue something a little more 'long term'... then I'd resist for a while. I actually read something about this. Men have a 'bull' period. A bull will only sleep with every cow in the field once and they can tell by their smell whether they've shagged them before. When you first meet a man (and this isn't in every case - more the 'average').. They really, really are thinking about having sex with you! haha. That's what their instinctual 'brain' is trying to achieve - nothing more. By fulfilling that desire before their emotional 'brain' takes over and replaces that sexual urge with a more emotional (and even more powerful!) desire... then they will have no use for you anymore. I really did read about this and I found it fascinating!!
No problem, your an adult, so is he. The only time it's a problem is if it's not clear what's going on. If one person thinks it's a relationship whilst the other thinks it's an mutually beneficial arrangement.
Obviously be safe (if it's not on it's not on) and enjoy!
Boink until your heart is content. Why should you miss out on the lovin to???