Hubby and I have been together for 16yrs, married 11. 3 kids - last surprise baby is nearly 2. We’ve been drifting in and out of ruts for a number of years. One of the biggest problems is our sex life - a constant issue for us. When we were first together it was all the time (as you do), but the last 5-6 years has been difficult. My sex drive is sooooo low, and I have no idea what to do about it. He’s understandably frustrated, and thinks that I don’t love him. We’re both suffering because we’re having such a hard time communicating about why we feel what we do. Seen a marriage counsellor a few times but can’t get consistent appointments and have had to cancel some due to lack of childcare for the little one . How do I get ‘us’ back?
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Maybe the idea of 'us' needs to change. It's normal to have sex life change over time
Go to your GP and explain the problem. Get sone blood tests. Sometime hormone levels can be off and affect libido.