Hi I am writing here as I feel I have no one I can talk to about my situation.
I have been with my partner 10years. He has never been the best communicator and i really struggle with this because I feel like I am so open. He has gotten slightly better over the years. He isn't very keen on counselling.
It becomes a big issue as to be expected. He will bottle things up and then walk out once he's reached boiling point. Then come back and expect everything to be ok. I know it has alot to do with his upbringing. We have one child and one on the way. He has recently walked out on his job as he's had enough. He did this without talking to me. We have big financial commitments. And it isn't the first time he has done this. I feel stupid for being so upset as its his pattern and why should I expect more?
He has expressed his desire to change career paths but never does anything to try and fix the situation. I feel like I'm at a loss. I want a partner I can rely on and one who will talk to me.
I don't know what I'm asking, it just feels good to get it out. He said he will try to get his job back and we will see but I know it'll only be temporary. I'm exhausted.
What do I do with my marriage?
What do I do with my marriage?
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Are you married to my sisters ex? In the end she left, because the instability and lack of resolving issues just became too much.
She’s moved forward in her life and he’s stayed the same.
Yeah, this IS who he is unless he decides to change it. And yeah you can’t be surprised when he does this stuff, because you know who he is. BUT you have a choice about wether this is the way you want your life to be or not and you can control what you do, that may mean leaving and that may mean that his other qualities out weigh his shitty ones.
He sounds depressed and in a rut. He needs a change. Start by cutting back your debt. Sell something change life styles. It’s prob the big financial commitments that weighs him down. Get rid of it, anything cut it back. Having that over one’s head is tough in itself and affects everything.