Hi ladies. Needing some advice. We currently have 2 girls. 8 and 5. Hubby has been asking for a third child basically since the youngest was born.
I feel like I’m done with the two. They are at good ages and I feel like life is finally getting easier. No more day care fees etc. We want to move into a bigger house next year and I feel like another baby would be a major set back. Hubby desperately wants another?? Any advice??
3rd child?
3rd child?
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I have two and feel exactly the same. I don't think I could ever have a third for anyone.
Its been 5 years I think it's time to have the conversation so that the no is heard, so you can both move into the next phase.
Don’t, if your hearts not in it, don’t. Just like if the reverse is true. It’s your body on the line, your health that takes the hit, it’s most likely you doing the heavy lifting when it comes to child care.
I have 2. 5 & 8 (boy & girl). I'm done for the same reasons you are. I would never have another baby & you shouldn't if you don't want one yourself. Explain your reasons & that you hear him but it's a hard no.
Is it possible he just wants to try for a son? I only ask because it's an even bigger gamble. It could be a girl. What then? Another?
Better to regret a child you didn't have than one you did have. I feel like if you had another you'd feel resentful. Maybe just tell him you'll revisit the idea in 6 months but for now you are not willing.
If the roles were reversed and it was the woman wanting another, then you’d say how dare a man tell you you can’t have any more kids. Maybe explain to him your feelings. It’s a lot on a woman. Carrying the baby/birth etc.
I was like you, had 2 girls, hubby wanted a 3rd, I sort of did too, wasn’t fussed either way, I was happy with my 2 girls… we ended up having a boy! But… I found it so hard. I felt like my life started all over again. I was finally getting my life back with my girls, youngest one was 5….. then I was back to square one. I don’t regret my son at all but if I could give my younger self some advice, it would be don’t have a 3rd!
Would be hard going back with the youngest being 5. I have 3 and can’t imagine life without my youngest though. The age gap is probably the only thing that would stop me. Are the siblings interested? They would be great little helpers. Will hinder travel and plans like that. Other then that they really are blessings.
I had the third, he’s awesome and I adore him, but he’s 5 and his brothers are 9 and 12 and FAR OUT!!! if someone had lent me 3 boys of this age before I committed to 3 I would have changed my mind. Lol. Your feelings are very valid, they do not stay little forever. Oh and the fights are incredible.