Ok, I’ve been separated for a little over a month. Around the same time I got together with my ex there were also feelings developing between a good friend and I (this is over six years ago). I know I chose the wrong man. My feelings have only grown stronger over time for him and 1.5 yrs ago it dawned on me that I am totally in love with the guy. It’s a love I have never felt for anyone before. It runs so deep within me it’s like my soul is calling for him. I never had that feeling with my ex. There was never any spark with my ex.
I managed to finally catch up with my good friend earlier this year who confessed he felt a connection between us all those years ago too but didn’t say much more. He is very distant at the moment which I understand with my separation and all.
My dilemma is: do I wait to see if he sparks up conversation again and slowly broach the subject of loving him? Do I just go all in and tell him how I truly feel? I don’t know if he has any idea that the connection grew for me. He is a sensitive and very caring gentleman so I don’t want to scare him off but what if he is waiting for me to let him know something somehow or what if I wait too long and lose him forever? I’m not afraid of him saying he doesn’t feel the same way. I’m prepared for that but I want to know one way or another how he is feeling now.
TIA x
Do I tell him?
Do I tell him?
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Then ask him . Won't know if you don't.
I feel like you are really intense in your feelings for him and you've been single a month. You might be best off giving yourself some breathing space so you don't blow it by jumping in too hard too fast if you really are serious about him?
Never monkey branch from one relationship to the next, get yourself sorted, make sure you’re ready, established as a single woman in your own right, coparenting well with the ex, you might only get one shot at this, so do it right.
I also think sometimes when we feel pain, we intensely focus on something else to take it away, and later we realise when we feel better, the feelings weren’t real, hence why rebound relationships never last.
Men aren't distant because they are being sensitive to your current situation. Men are distant because they are just not that into you. Wait a little while, and bring it up gently. Don't expect too much.