Hi IMs,
I have a question regarding how to deal with a MIL who lies and says awful things about me in front of my kids. In her anger, she said in front of my kids that I was on the phone to her a while back and I said I locked my daughter in a room and said I "was going to kill her". Then she also accused me of being unfaithful in front of my kids. Which neither of the above is true. Her son, my (ex) husband has been jealous of any male that i become friends with and I always end up having to give them up as friends. I stood my ground now and have 3 good male friends through martial arts and he is insanely jealous of 2 of them, life becomes terrible if I've been with them at training.
How would you deal with this? I don't want her to have any alone time with the kids as I feel she will make up more lies and badmouth me. Can I stop my ex from allowing her to spend alone time with them when he has time with them?
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It is really hard to! But you know what, what she did is actually family violence you could go and get a restraining order on her and state in it she is not allowed to talk about you to your children. Sounds like you need one for your ex too, you're separated he should not be giving you hell about guys that you're close to. You can see where your ex gets his yuckiness from can't you.
Thank you! Yes I certainly saw who she truly is and saw the similarities with her son. I know, we've been separated for a few weeks and I still cop abuse about my friends. Just this time they ganged up on me about it. Thank you for the advice. I think I will get some sort of order out on her. She's overstepped the mark, that's for sure.
I would leave the place immediately and I would tell her that what she said is disgusting and inappropriate and that's the last warning she will get.
Maybe a warning is worth it? I was thinking of going straight for a protection order.
It will be hard to stop but I certainly would not be in situations where I was around her, or talking on the phone to her.
Explore your options legally, but also be sensible and protect yourself by limiting contact with her yourself.
Thank you. I'll definitely be limiting any contact with her. I just at this stage won't be able to limit contact between her and my kids.
Have you ever approached this woman and told her your finding these comments inappropriate?
You have only been split from her son for a couple of weeks, off course you will be seen as the bad person in this situation.