Hi Sisterhood
I have started a new relationship with someone who is the complete opposite of my “normal type”. I don’t find him physically attractive, yet I have such strong feelings for him. We also have a lot of chemistry in the bedroom.
I am drawn to his personality and kindness. He is everything I have ever wanted in a partner, I wake up to good morning texts and always get goodnight messages. We speak in person or via text throughout the day, we just click.
Can a relationship be successful without finding your partner “hot”.
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Yeah, I think so.
I actually think a lot of relationships that are based purely on physical attraction or hotness don't tend to last the distance because there's not a lot of real substance to build on.
I think you’ve found a good one. Nobody ever stays hot, nobody! And someone may not be hot now but may be hot in the senior years.
Don’t let hotness hold you back.
Personality, mutual respect, a desire to work as a true partnership and chemistry are far more important.
Hotness won’t make the relationship last the distance.
Hnmmm no. All of that should make him attractive toyou. If there's no attraction then it's not right, you're just friends. Find yours and let him find him.
Agreed. The OP posted everything that should be attractive.... So if it isn't, they're mates and she's wasting his time.
Yep absolutely.
Fell in love with my husband's personality and caring nature over everything else.
In the past when I was with the most stereotypical attractive person I wouldn't even notice their looks. Its the personality that affects a relationship the most.
As my nana use to say....we all get ugly in the end 😂
100%
When I first met my current partner (of 6 months) I didn’t find him attractive - at all. I was so torn because he was the kindest person I had ever met and I wanted to be attracted to him so badly. After 4 dates I even broke it off because I just wasn’t feeling it. We kept in touch occasionally and one day we met up. We have been inseparable ever since. I know think he is the sexiest guy I have met. I can not get enough of him!
I'm on the other side of this because my partner doesn't find me attractive, which REALLY hurts. I'm the kind of person who doesn't care about looks so I don't know why this hurts me.
We have great chemistry in the bedroom and he is incredibly kind and loving and generous and thoughtful and intelligent, and I know he loves me. I'm the first partner who has treated him kindly. But I'm constantly wondering if our love is strong enough to be forever, or if he'll dump me as soon as a hot, lovely, kind, gentle person comes along...I just don't know. I know looks are important to a man....so I guess I'm confused as to why he would be with me if he isn't attracted to me but yet he still loves me. But maybe I'm the one who doesn't really know what love is... I've always said love is deeper than the outside, so maybe he's just applying that belief to me.
I initially started my relationship with my husband thinking he wasn't the best looking but he is the kindest and most patient person ive met and i just went with it for that reason. I wasnt even looking for a relationship and then fell in love or more realistically said wow i can imagine my life with your forever
I thinm those feelings made me see him differently and i started to think he was hot as and i think rhTs why our relationship works so well cause i went for personality and then saw his beauty.