This probably won't make sense, I'm all over the place at the moment and have no friends to talk to.
I'm feeling lost at the moment. Like I'm stuck and I can't escape.
I want to move towns, closer to the coast, hubby does but doesn't at the same time. I understand that coastal living is much dearer then where we live in regional nsw. But I've lived here for over 20 years and our youngest will go into High School next year and I'd like them to start the new year at a new school.
Where we live now, i feel like I'm on a hamster wheel, I just want to leave. I'm not happy, my blood pressure is high all the time. Hubby has health problems as well. I've even been told how sad I look.
I just feel like we need a new start. I'm just at the point where I want to go that bad, I'm willing to move without hubby. And I really don't want to do that!
How do I convince him this move will be great for all of us? For our happiness.
What to do...
What to do...
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I’ve moved a few times for various reasons. I think your motivation to move is a bit off. You need to think about what will actually change if you move.
Because your blood pressure won’t magically go down because you moved. Life can be just as stressful (especially if money becomes tighter) in a coastal town.
Honestly, while I’ve always thought the moves I did were positive I had very real reasons why life would be different. For example, access to more doctors for my child, a promotion at work, be closer to an aging relative.
If you go into it with vague ideas that things will be magically better, you’ll be disappointed.
You start organising things. Start packing, put your things in storage and go! We did this and moved to the gold coast and its amazing. Best move ever. Didnt hesitate? Just did it. I was going with or with out my husband. I was exactly like you. New start new lease on life. You won’t look back.
Yep you sound so ready for a change. I'd start taking husband on beach holidays. Some people are happier when they have a reality lined up. What the town is, where the job is, the school, what kind of shops, lifestyle etc etc
You don't always leave problems behind when you move. Sometimes they follow you. My advice would be to seek medical assistance for high blood pressure and anxiety. Once they are under control and you have a clearer head, then talk about possibilities.