Ok people. Does anyone's husband's get erotic massages with happy endings.
It was this is a fantasy of my husband's. I new he would randomly text asking questions about price act but he promised he would never follow through. I found out today he has a couple of times. No oral, just a rub and tug. And to be honest I was devastated and betrayed now I think, well is this something I can live with on occasion. At the same time could he live with me getting a little extra service from my guy that does my massage?
I'm not after judgement or advice to leave him because I assure you I would in a heartbeat and this morning in the moment of rage may have cut up his 4 most treasured football Jerseys. But has I sit here thinking about it in a calmer state I'm not angry anymore. I know sounds crazy right.
We have a great and I mean a great sex life. He never makes me feel like has not attaracted to me. He said he didn't want sex with them just loving touch
I am also qualified in massaged and have had a few men over the years that would see me for my touch but no happy endings (a few offer a though... I am quiet attractive) These would tell me that their wives are so busy giving they feel bad asking for more.
Just after how others deal with this if they do.
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Yer it’s a No from me. He just wants loving touch.? He doesn’t get that from any one but his wife.? Loving? If I found out my Husband did this, I would be out. If he can do this and pay then what would he do for free? Paying or not it’s the same. It’s cheating it’s just his way of getting away with it. No way!!
There is no love in a massage parlour, especially parlours with happy endings. Why isn’t he satisfied with you then, if you say your sex life is great and you are attractive. May he needs more than that. You wouldn’t be comfortable giving happy endings but your husband is comfortable going to pay for them. I find it disrespectful and a total betrayal. My sisters husband was going to one for the same thing and I can assure you, he was getting more than that. He was a regular getting the works. She ended up leaving him. Not only was he cheating but using their family income to pay for these services.
No. Have you seen what it is? It's not just a normal massage with a hand job at the end. They rub their pussys and tits all over them. The ladies that do them are usually ex prostitutes or current prostitutes and wouldnt care to do a few extra things for extra $. Why doesn't he just ask you for it if it's a fantasy and you're happy to do it?
Really 🤣 I didn’t know this. Gosh!
Yeah nah.
He wouldn't stop at just a rub and tug.
I am totally fine with it personally.
It’s a NO from me. I would not be ok with this at all.
Just as I wouldn’t be ok with my partner getting a hand job from anyone. Money changing hands doesn’t make it ok.
Exactly. If he got it for free is that cheating or is it still OK?
It’s a big no from me, never would I think that this was ok.
So you were angry but when faced with leaving decided you could shift your personal values to stay. Yeah no that won't work. Especially because this wasn't your choice he's going to do it whether you like it or not, and what else. And will you just keep moving the line of how you want to be treated?
I agree. Last time one of my friends did this (moved the line in the sand) she wasted another dozen years before deciding enough was enough.
Hard no from me.
I am that sex worker that does happy endings and more. It’s always expected the men who come to me are single. If they aren’t it’s their burden to carry and not my duty to ask but I do feel for the women behind these men.
I didn’t realise a happy ended was a little more than just a simple band job. You are right, it’s not your job or your fault that these men are unfaithful to their partners.
Ending - hand! Misspelt those 🤦🏼♀️
I just asked my husband if he would go to one and he said “no - because I love you and I respect you”. Isn’t that what you want in your relationship..?
Holy shit bags no way….. he would be shown the door 👋 that’s not on..
It’s a hard no from me.
Lol. My husband got a massage on a boy's night once because they all wanted one and he had shoulder/neck pain and figured why not. He burst out laughing in surprise accidentally spitting on the masseuse when she asked him if he wanted that ending. The group of about 5 blokes he was with were married though and they all did. Apparently it really was a clinical rub and tug. He didn't get the appeal for them though and didn't accept further boy's night invites after that. I think it's more common than you think. That said, this was about 7 years ago and I think most of those guys are divorced now. So even if it's common, it's still unacceptable and probably tends to be men that are happy to cheat regardless
I couldn’t live with it. It would be just that. You don’t sound silly and I think you know deep down, it’s just being able to accept it and decide what you want. I don’t get why some men think it’s different to cheating because they pay. The men I know who do this, never stop at that ,
Wouldn’t be just that
He literally cheated on you. With a sex worker!! You have every right to be mad. I say leave his ass but hey it’s up to you.
This is disgusting I’m sorry that’s well over crossing the line and into cheatsville. If he needs to pay someone to get him off especially after knowing your thoughts and him promising,then I’d be signing those divorce papers
That is a firm no for me.
These aren't just masseurs that do a little tug at the end. This is a sensual massage that costs a lot more than a normal massage.
For me, that would mean my husband has seen a prostitute. I value myself and my time in a relationship way more than that. If someone wants to have that aspect in their lives, they can do it without me in it.
He’s been knocking away at your boundaries for so long now, you’ve become desensitised.
He chipped away when you knew he was contacting them, and now he continues to push your boundaries and you’ve ‘accepted’ this. What’s the next boundary he will push?
I’m going to go against the grain here and I’m sure it’ll upset a few 😂
Firstly I want to say that I don’t agree with cutting up his clothes.
If you have gotten over your initial anger, thought about it calmly and have come to the conclusion that it’s not a big deal for you, then I don’t see an issue with going along with it and allowing it - as long as it’s ok for you to do the same of course.
The dishonesty from him is a problem though. That’s the issue that needs to be dealt with.
I can assure you, you are not attractive. You are perpetrating domestic violence by cutting up his shirts. That is unacceptable.
You are extremely toxic, he possibly is too. But this type of behaviour is disgusting and you should be ashamed of yourself. Beauty is not just your outward appearance, but who you are as a person. Work on that.
Being so harsh and judgemental Is ugly af.
What sort of dirt bag wants his dick tugged by someone who’s had her hands on 10 other dicks the same day?! Yuck. Also they don’t just rub and tug they get naked and get their bits touched too. Doesn’t matter if you’re attractive or not, whether you have a good sex life or not. He lied, he cheated and you went crazy cutting up his stuff.
Maybe an open relationship is an option. Whatever is good for the goose is okay for the gander.
I'm sorry what?? How does paying someone to wank you off offer loving touch??!!
Hell no, he's a piece of shit!