I am bored in my relationship and it feels like ground hog day everyday. I am married with kids and lately I've been thinking alot on why I am still with my husband. We make "love" once or twice a month and he prefers porn then sex with me. The spark is gone, we are rarely affectionate to each other. Not sure what I'm asking but am I alone? Someone else feel the same way about there relationship also? What did you do to bring back that spark?
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Put in some effort! What are you doing to show you are interested in him? How affectionate are you? I think we get so caught up in looking at all the things the other person is doing and we need to stand in the mirror, look at our behaviour and efforts and see what we could do to improve the situation.
Nope. Definitely NOT alone.
I’m wth one of these men.
Says he has no libido, yet can masturbate five+ times a month, but can’t have sex with me more than once every month or three.
He is on antidepressants which CAN lower it, but come on!!! If you can wank 10x more than you have sex, in the same amount of time, there’s some lies being told.
He also shows no affection towards me.
No hand holding.
No hugs.
No kissing.
No compliments etc.
I stopped trying when 99% of my advances were rejected, so this is my life now.
I’ll be leaving once I can find employment and have the means to support our children. It’s hard when you have no support network. 😢
I’ve tried it all, talking, listening, understanding etc.
he’s even had his psychiatrist tell him to pull his head out of his ass (not in those words of course), but alas, no change. (He requested I join for one of his sessions which no longer attends since then 🙄🙄🙄)
Wishing you better luck if you try to work it out. X
Every now and then I have found my relationship with my husband heading down the same path. One thing I have learnt is a marriage doesn't just happen it takes work.
Hubby and remind each other when we are starting to feel like the sparks fizzling out and we find ways to connect. There have been many hard conversations and tears ect, but sometimes those conversations are what kick starts the spark.
How does your husband show and feel love? How do you show and feel love?