So I have two young children 1& 4 and am married to an awesome man.
For some reason I have always had a low sex drive and just don’t feel in the mood for sex/intimacy. This has become worse since having my second child. I would rather sleep then have sex……..
Is there something wrong with me? Does anyone else feel this way. How do I get myself in the mood. I am attracted to my husband but just don’t have any sex drive at all. I feel terrible for him.
I am still breastfeeding my youngest a couple of times a day and noticed with my first child that my sex drive didn’t return until after I stopped feeding.
Any advice would be great.
Sex after kids
Sex after kids
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I'm by no means a professional but seems some what normal especially as your youngest is only 1.
Is your youngest still keeping you up through the night?
I went through this with my middle child. She was hard work and by time it was my bedtime all I wanted was sleep not sex.
What I found helped was open communication with my husband, I don't know in terms of help you have available but we where lucky enough to have family near by and we started doing date nights here and there. But made a point of having at least one date night in the month. Back to the open communication I spoke about my work load as a sahm and said I need some help hubby was fifo week on week off. Ended up getting a cleaner for a few months to help get back on top of everything and we talked a lot.
Slowly the intimacy returned started as more cuddles kisses even as simple as holding hands. Then with those things returning I found the sex returned too.
My advice is open and honest communication with hubby about how your feeling so he can understand. Dont shut him out.
Good luck op