So, my ex and father of my one year old is a alcoholic, who lives with his step daughter and her child, but because his illegally living there (housing house in his ex's name) he sleeps on the lounge. So both my ex and his step daughter publicly talk bad about me (Facebook etc) and obviously privately. I want my son to have a relationship with his father but I'm concerned about the above mentioned. He has said he has applied for mediation to take place but due to covid the wait times are long. Do I just wait for mediation or do I try to organize safe visitation?
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Wait for mediation! Discuss the bad mouthing at mediation too, make it clear you don't want them bad mouthing you in front of your child. What a Jerry Springer set up he has there. I would be a real bitch and dob them in to the housing department because neither of them should be there if she is not living there any more it's unfair for the people who have been on the wait list for years waiting for a house.
Yes but sometimes its better the devil you know, when youre sending your child there.
Step daughter and child who badmouth you may still be the better of the other options he could get into.
Sounds like a very toxic environment where they are both going to brainwash the child so I don't think that's the right attitude to have. If Dad lived on his own and didn't have someone encouraging his negativity then there might be hope for the future. With the current set up I doubt it.
Hes an alcoholic he shouldnt have the child at all, but if thats happening then at least where there is another child is better than what else he could get into, sharehouses with random men and what would they be up to that they would put up with him.
The priority here has to be the child over taking petty revenge on him.
Wait for mediation. While you are waiting look into contact centres in your area, cost, requirements, etc. Supervised visitation may be what is needed to ensure your child is kept safe. Have it put into the agreement that neither parent, nor their friends/family can bad mouth the other parent in front of the child. Document everything! Keep all contact between you and him in text messages or emails. Stick to only communicating about the child, don’t respond if he has a go at you, specifically, about anything. If you end up in court this will assist in showing that supervised visits will be better for the child.