I’m married, have been for 6 years - have 3 kids but I seem to reminisce of life before kids, before my husband and I miss it.
I miss the ‘old’ me. Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband, I love my kids but I just feel like I don’t know who I am anymore, I feel like I’m just the ‘wife’ and ‘mum’
How do I find who I am again? I feel like I’m lost.
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I feel like this as well and I think its normal, having kids is hard. Really hard. Especially with the lack of support so many people have, figuring it out is hard and tiring.
But its doing the things that you enjoy, and probably more specifically feeling that you have the freedom (even sometimes) to live your life for you. For me it took for my kids to just grow up a bit til they dont hang off me and need me for everything. Looking at your story, I guess your kids are still young too.
I went through the exact same thing. I had to work on carving out time for my interests. It’s hard, and you are never the same once you have kids because of responsibilities but it’s important to make time for something.
You need to find something thats only for you. A hobbie, interest or sport or some other activity.
I felt like this, then I started studying, best thing I ever did!
Same, someday I cry about it. I miss being young, looking great and having so much fun. I had a great job and did what I wanted. I miss too somedays