I have found out that I am being cheated on. He doesn't know that I know yet. I am wanting to go back to my home state to be closer to family and support. Is there a way I can start the ball rolling without him finding out until Im ready to tell him? There is also DV history
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To be honest, if you leave the state without getting a relocation order from a judge he can go to court to make you move back.
Your best bet, leave him and set up house in the area, get a VRO in place if hes physically abusive, start mediation. If mediation isn’t successful you’ll get a certificate so you can go to family court. You can apply for a relocation order and a judge can grant one so you can leave the state and go back to where you have support. Do not just up and leave, not only can a judge make you move the children back, you could loose custody of your children. If he moves away and leaves the kids with you have every right to just up and leave. If he’s violent with the kids also you can get a FVRO.
I waited for my ex to leave town and then moved over an hour away from where we were living. If he leaves that’s pretty much your opportunity to up and leave and go where you want. But if he has regular access to his kids and he is consistent with his visitation then it’s unlikely a judge will sign off on your move.
Yes you need to pack your kids and stuff and go back to your family. Don’t tell him or even let anyone know who knows him. Get the kids enrolled into school and go and speak to legal aid and get full custody. If he is abuisve keep ringing the police so it’s all recorded on his record. Take out an AVO but just get out and leave.
Just move he won’t bother and he deserves what he gets if he has been violent. I wouldn’t think twice, I’d be long gone with my kids.
Just go
Go and cut all contact
He can get a recovery order weather there is parental orders or not to force u back. Sadly, unless he says its ok, it likely isn't an option
Go. I doubt he'll bother and if he does it will be long and expensive and right now you need to be with family and away from him. Far away. You have to get out.
Keep records of everything and file police reports to help you and also put him off trying to win in court, then go.
Leave before officially breaking up with him or he can force you back.
Do not listen to the advice of people telling you to leave the state without telling him. You must get permission to do so or you will be forced back if he goes to the courts. Seek legal advice. I am a lawyer so am quite familiar with these issues
She can if they're still in a relationship
As a couple of people here have said you can't just leave. You need to seek urgent legal advice. Contact your local community legal service (you can google it) for some free initial advice. Don't rely on Facebook as there are a mixture of experts and people who mean well but might give you advice that sets you back much further including losing custody of the kids. This is a legal issue. Good luck!