Hi, my husband and i are expecting our 2nd child, i'm 24 weeks along. This pregnancy I have found it really difficult to be interested in having sex and i think it is upsetting my husband.
I'm finding sex physically uncomfortable (there's nothing wrong medically) and i've been feeling very unattractive lately, mainly because i'm quite overweight.
I try not to turn my husband down too often but i can tell it is really bothering him when i do. He's not pushy about it and he tries to be understanding, but i hate upsetting him like that.
I've tried to explain why i don't want sex at the moment but he doesn't really listen to me or maybe he doesn't think i'm serious or something, i'm not sure. Anyway, I'm worried that he might start to think i'm not attracted to him anymore or he might stop asking for sex and i don't want this affecting our marriage in any way. Just wondering if any ladies have had this trouble or if anyone has any advice for me.
Thanks :-)
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At times during pregnancy I found sex really great and other times it was really painful. Continue to keep the lines of communication open. Just because penetration isn't comfortable doesn't mean you can't do other things and can't connect in other ways sexually. Also don't let your self esteem (body issues) get in the way. Your husband obviously finds you very attractive so you should try and see what he sees. Maybe take the time to reconnect on an emotional level, spoon, give each other massages, touch etc and keep communication open.
I am in my second pregnancy too and this time around I think it's because I have a toddler, work part time and am just more tired!! Thankfully my husband understands this. Just explain to him that it happens during pregnancy and you still are attracted to him.