My ex cheated on me and left me for another woman while I was pregnant they had kids and stayed together for years. During their relationship she threatened my life/pregnancy and attacked the way I look in a viscious and soul destroying way to the point i questioned my reasons for being here.
Her sister contacted me (because exs ex is blocked) to say her sister is sorry. I do feel sorry for her but she made my life hell for years. What should I do?
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You owe her nothing, I wouldn't even entertain her. She probably wants to form a connection to gang up on your ex, I would rise above it. My ex has had 2 relationships after we split, well 2 that have failed he's currently in his third, and if any of them reached out I would tell them where to go. They were horrible to me and I won't forget it, one of them was horrible to my kids too. They are out of my life and so is my ex I don't need to reconcile and have a big bitch session about my ex and compare notes.
No thanks. No time for that.
Nope
I assume she's now split with your ex and wants to trash him with you?
You don't owe her a damn thing, but I'd write back to the sister and say exactly that - she hurt me and made my life hell for years. I'm sorry if she's now hurting but I don't have time for that. And don't contact me again. Blocked.
I'd write back and tell this woman that you acknowledge her sister's apology but it changes nothing.
If things get snarky, block this woman too if you have to!
Sounds like this ex needs to learn that you can't fuck with somebody's life to this degree and expect a grapevine apology to make everything sunshine and rainbows again!
Nah, no way. Let her suffer and feel like crap for the rest of her life about it. Sick of bullies, hope she raises her kids to be better than she is
Live your life. If you don't want her in your circle, dont.
No one is entitled to your forgiveness unless you feel that they deserve it.
You deserve respect and dignity. You deserve peace.
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Block the sister and move on. Don't send a message back. She is probably getting the same treatment from Exs new girlfriend.
She should feel absolutely terrible for how she treated you but you definitely don't need to acknowledge or forgive her
Your kids are siblings with her kids right? Maybe give her a second chance for the sake of the kids getting to know each other. But have firm boundaries.
I’m a big believer in accepting the apology for yourself and leaving it at that so you can get closure for your soul, I went through something very similar and felt like
It was finally over when I accepted the girls apology it will always affect you but please don’t allow the toxicity back in regardless of how sorry she is it is still a very dark part of your past that sometimes is best those doors remain closed.