Does anyone else here feel like they really don’t fit in with one side of their family?
I come from a blended family, since I was 8. I absolutely get on like a house on fire with my Mums side of the family despite growing up with my Dads side.
Is it normal to fit in with one side really well- yet be the black sheep on the other side?
I’ve always felt like this but now it’s affecting my children. I can see them not getting the love and time from one side- despite me bending over backwards to give them that opportunity.
There have been no arguments but I still have felt like I’m just sick of trying so hard. I have managed to step back, I don’t think they’ve noticed thankfully. But at what point do you just wipe your hands of it.
I’m so conflicted because I’m very family oriented and grew up this way. Everyone thinks we’re all so close but the reality is very different
How to fit in
How to fit in
Posted in:
Relationships & Marriage, Health & Wellbeing
3 Replies
For me, this is where I’d want to start modelling healthy relationships and healthy reactions to people not accepting you.
For me, that healthy reaction is ‘I deserve better, so I’m not putting myself in this situation anymore’.
I can relate.
I'm close with my mum's side of the family but it's really only my nan, my brother, my aunt and uncle (not close with my mum). No cousins, no nieces or nephews.
My dads side, I have 10 aunts and uncles, 37 cousins. Yet I kind of feel like an unwelcome outsider.
It makes me a little sad, I have this whole other huge family unit that I'm missing out on. My children would have heaps of cousins to grow up with etc.
But what can you do 🤷♀️
You just kind of have to get on with it and put your energy into the people who appreciate and care about you.
Thank you for your feedback 🤗 somedays it’s just like flogging a dead horse