I’m in love with two people. It sounds crazy. One I know is the right choice one I can’t give up. I don’t know how to decide, I don’t know how to pick one of or the other. What do I do?
I’m in love with two people. It sounds crazy. One I know is the right choice one I can’t give up. I don’t know how to decide, I don’t know how to pick one of or the other. What do I do?
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You don’t pick either. You go be single, enjoy the single life and work yourself through this situation.
Being with either one of them while you are pulled in the other direction is very hurtful and disrespectful.
Be single, don’t be around either.
Go for the second.
“If you were in love with the first, you would have never fallen for the second” - unknown
Pros and cons list?
Instinctively I wanted to say leave both of them cause it’s impossible to really love 2 people. But then I remembered my pop (passed away 2 years ago) and remembered right up to the day he died he was madly in love with my Nan and my step-nan. The full story is a love story. But in short married young with my Nan, life was hard back then so they parted ways. He met and married my step-nan while still holding a massive flame for me Nan. My step-nan knew this. And my Nan met and married my step-pop. When step-nan passed away and my step-pop passed a few years later it was by chance alone that my Nan and Pop found each other again and it was like teenage love again. Both my step-nan and step-pop were spoke of all the time. The love was still there but then there was Nan and pop madly in love too. It was like a relationship with 4 people. 2 living and 2 passed. Nan and pop lived many happy love filled years with their loves that had passed on the walls of their home.
So no, you know what.... it’s not crazy to love 2 people at the same time. You just need to decided which one you can’t live without the most because that’s the one your heart really loves. I suspect the one you know is the right choice IS probably the right choice and the other.... well I’m going to guess that he’s the green grass on the other side of the fence. Seems like an round good guy, maybe more of a risk taker (or a risk), you ‘can’t give him up’ honestly doesn’t sound 100% healthy. I think you know the answer but to scared to choose cause you’re worried you’ll make a wrong choice. Don’t be. Trust you gut, it’s a better judge of character than the heart ❤️
I believe you can love more than one, I did. I met someone when we were 16, nothing ever happened, we have never dated, but I am most definitely in love with him, he dosent know and last year got married. I chose to not follow my heart and have chosen the other person which ended up a domestic violence situation. I decided 2 years ago I was going to tell him, but he lives in a different state to me, and I am still going too, but not to destroy his happiness and his marriage, just because I can't not have him know, probably not anytime soon. I'm am happy if he is, and we get along very well anyway.
Best thing you can do is tell them both, either they will both put in more effort to keep you happy, they will be happy to share you or both will leave. They deserve to know and for your own mental health you need to do it
Open relationship! Telling you, best thing I ever did
A lot are saying pick the second or neither without more info.
My guess is the 2nd you can’t give up is not right in someway. Is he an addict? Is he a cheater? But you love the person without the issues. Don’t try and change him. If this is the case cut number 2 out as it will be a life time of heartache.
Sometimes we can be fooled by chemistry and charm and good looks BUT this doesn’t last forever. The young forget we get old and faithfulness, shared goals and dreams far outweigh a bit of chemistry with the wrong person.
Been there done that and I can speak from life experience and what I’d say to me then knowing what I know now. Good luck xx