Ill try keep it short.
Been in relationship with this man for 18 mths (both have kids previous marriage his kids younger then mine)
Been going along well. Dont get together as often as we would like due to work/family.
He lives 45min away.
We were due to go away for weekend with my kids soon.
Out of the blue get a message from random woman telling me she been sleeping with him on and off for 7yrs.
I text him.. he says she someone he was with prior to me (she has something can blackmail him with apparently) they had dinner recently she wanted more but he said no and told her about me.. he say she went mental.
Im gutted because 1. He didnt tell me he met up with her.
2. He knew she on war path yet faild to tell me
3. Hasnt made effort to come talk to me face to face.
I do love him a lot and we were moving forward to being able to be together more. About to meet his kids (younger so we wanted to wait)
I dont know the full story as we havent spoken just been texts. I am emotionally confused and feel chat over phone wont do.
Its not the 1st time ive had a partner cheat (12yrs married to cheater)
Is it something peoplecan move past
Is it something peoplecan move past
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No, at the very least he let you blindsided by this woman, at the worst he hasn’t been faithful.
I think the distance thing just makes it all the harder to trust him.
It’s a red flag at the very least and you should tread carefully.
I wouldn't trust him after this, I wouldn't waste my time letting things go further.
You shouldn’t have texted him. You should have called him or confronted him face to face. Texting you have given him the opportunity to think about his response.
Anyway it all sounds suspicious and I’d personally not trust him. And I’d not want to get in the middle of whatever is going on with this woman, especially when there are kids involved. Cut your losses and move on.
Nope. Move on. If touve ever been cheated on youll ghost that mf and save yourself a world of pain and wasted time.
It’s only been 18 months, you haven’t met the children. Do them a favour and move on because this guy obviously can’t be trusted. I’d hate for you to meet the kids and get them settled and then this happens again. I’m sorry 😢
Look, I could probably buy the met up for dinner and living so far away/not as far as meeting kids etc it's a bit rich expecting to know everyone he meets up with.
But.
C'mon. She has something to blackmail him with? How fucking important does he think he is? Ditch the loser and count yourself lucky you got out before he really dialled up the drama.
Accept it sweetheart. He's fucking her and quiet possibly still with her. He's playing you both. He's double dipping . She's just as much a victim in this as you are. He's nothing but a lying snake. Trust your gut instincts. It's there for a reason.