My husband has a porn addiction. I feel betrayed, disgusted and to be honest it's crumbling to my self esteem. Has anyone ever been in this position? Can things change? Does therapy/counselling work? We barely even kiss and when we do there is no passion, sex seems more like a chore for him once a month at best. I've done so much reading on men with porn addictions and the issues it causes in their relationships.. seems to be ticking all the boxes.
I know he loves me, and no he is not cheating.. but the constant watching of porn does feel like infidelity to me. It's breaking my heart and I don't know where to go from here.
My husband is addicted to porn
My husband is addicted to porn
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Sounds like he'd be in therapy if he wanted a healthy marriage. Get yourself into your own therapy.
I would be long gone. How sickening for you. Until he gets help then I’d be out of there until he could come back a change person.
I could have written this 😢. Due to this and our work hours and kids, we've turned into friends, not even with benefits.
That's how I feel in my relationship. He won't even tell me why. When we first met, I had no idea this would happen. I kept asking and he comes up with any excuse so I stopped asking almost a year ago because I'm sick of being rejected. It's really awkward because other than sex we get along really well.
Yep my husband too...
When we first met we discussed porn and he said it does nothing for him and he doesn't watch it...I shared I don't mind watching occasionally and have done so but he never engaged with it...
2 years down the track we are still dealing with his constant need to watch...its mostly at work and it only becomes a problem when he is home for prolonged periods...he gets nasty towards me bad moods etc...but his constant need to watch every young attractive woman walking by has totally taken its toll on me...
Our sex life isn't effected as when we have sex we are totally ok but I am emotionally exhausted by it all...first the lie then the constant lying...and now the constant pepping myself up telling myself it's not me etc....
We have very emotional honest conversations about it but he goes to work the next day and looks...
I wish I could work out why he needs to...especially when we first met there was sex every day...he says it does nothing sexually for him and he doesn't nowwhy he does it..."it's funny" was the only thing he came up with...he 100% knows it hurts me but yet doesn't stop...
Take away this issue and our marriage is great...
Addiction is very real...