Hi all, does anyone have experience with filling in an "Application to change your assessment Special Circumstances" I'm about to move to 50/50 care with my ex (not a friendly split and he cannot communicate in a civil manner with me at all). Up until now the child support he's had to pay has covered private school fees, we both earn around the same. Once we go to 50/50, I'll be entitled to virtually no child support (which I'm fine with), but at the moment he's still refusing to contribute to school costs, so I may have to submit the above form. What gets me though is that everything I submit with and on the form he gets to see. So he gets to know my budget, my bank balances, what I owe on my mortgage. Pretty much everything. Is there any way around this. He's not a nice man and I find it completely bizarre that I have to submit all of this information to someone that makes my life hell :( I'm happy to submit all docs to CSA, but I don't want him to have access to all of my financial information. Is there any way around it?? so frustrated. (This whole time I've been paying 100% of everything, school, health insurance, mobiles for the kids. They've been at private school since they began their schooling and both are now in highschool).
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It is frustrating, partners ex pulls us through this bullshit at least once a year. We see all the stat decs from her friends and everything, she sees all our stuff too. I get that it keeps everyone honest but I think it's the worst thing they could do. There's no way around it unless you send the info after the due date lol. Which is useless.
Could you change the forms at school? I know with our school you can choose which percentage each parent pays. That might be easier!
Unfortunately school will only issue one invoice, they wont chase him for fees unless I let it go into arrears. It's so wrong, that someone that already feels vulnerable has to be even more vulnerable :( he earns slightly more than me and also does cash in hand work (he can earn anywhere between $50-500+ each week) and cries poor. Meanwhile I'm actually paying out much more than him. I wish CSA would step up and be the ones that make sure everything is honest........wishful thinking.
My ex requested a reassessment of child support. When CSA contacted me to let me know about what info I had to submit, I was told I could black out any info I didn’t want him to see as long as they could see how many hours I had worked, hourly pay rate, year to date earnings on my payslips, and account balances, everything else got blacked out. For the section about bills I just put in what I pay towards each bill fortnightly rather than what the total is when the bill comes in. Contact CSA to find out what info they actually need and what can be blacked out. Also remember, while he will get to see what you submit, you will also be provided with copies of everything he submits.
Original poster here, responding to some comments on the facebook page. For one lady saying he is not responsible at all. She is wrong, and he has the financial capacity to pay for it, but he'd rather have money for "toys" which was my whole marriage to him. Me financially responsible and him spending any spare money on hobbies etc. He's on the enrolment forms and has been since they started school. I believe it's an attempt at control. For him, everything comes back to me deciding to leave, if I hadn't left we wouldn't be facing this etc etc. This is our first week that they are both at his house, so far so good (for the kids) but I don't know how long it will last. I've spoken to the school and they wont split the invoice, so no luck there. I am going to try again with ex before I go down the past of lodging the change of assessment. Thankyou to everyone that has commented.