I feel ashamed. I've booked in for a tummy tuck and breast lift/reduction. I have lost 45kgs and am unhappy with my belly and breasts but I feel guilty.
I have 2 daughters and I'm supposed to be teaching them to love themselves exactly as they are but here I am being a hypocrite.
I am nervous but excited for my surgery and think it will help me greatly with confidence.
How do I explain it to my girls? How do I build their self-esteem and resilience when I've hated my body since I was 12.
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Look at it from a comfort level. Tummy tuck means not having that flap of skin making clothes not fit. Breast lift means fitting a normal size bra.
For your girls, actively encourage them to be healthy and stay healthy so they never have to face the same challenge.
And congratulations, what an epic effort.
I think having lost 45kgs you can definitely say this is part of the process in a long difficult journey that you've worked extremely long and hard at.
Tummy flaps and excess skin can also be a health risk, so even though you're doing this mostly for confidence and comfort, there would be a health benefit as well. Focus on that with your kids