I am 110kg and 165cm. My partner just left me saying my weight was the main reason. I talked to my doctor about weight loss surgery but she said because I'm an emotional eater she does not recommend it. What has been your experience?
I am 110kg and 165cm. My partner just left me saying my weight was the main reason. I talked to my doctor about weight loss surgery but she said because I'm an emotional eater she does not recommend it. What has been your experience?
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If you're an emotional eater I'd definitely recommend therapy, surgery isn't going to correct habits.
I started at 100kg, therapy and exercise has changed my life.
Screw your ex partner you don't need him if thats his attitude - don't look for a quick fix. Make yourself a priority and go on a journey of self love and worth.
Its not easy but it's worth it.
I still have a long way to go but I'm down 3 dress sizes in a year and i am so proud of my mental and physical health - you can be too, I promise!
That's awesome. Congratulations.
Don’t do surgery, definitely get therapy. If you want surgery later the option will still be there but you need to deal with your emotional eating first.
Emotional eaters undo the surgery very quickly, because they don’t have coping mechanisms for there emotions.
No advice on surgery but please don't do this for your ex. Do it for yourself.
What bizarre advice from your doctor, most obese people are emotional eaters. My husband is 150kilos and hes an emotional eater but he still got accepted for bariatric surgery.
They do recommend seeing a councillor and dietitian though as the mind needs to learn to think differently before the surgery can begin. Otherwise you'll just put it all back on again
I would say do not get surgery for a cosmetic reason right after a break up. You're quite vulnerable right now and you need to work on your mental health, which isn't defined by kgs or dress size. Youre actually adding a whole extra load of stress with a surgery and strict diet.
The is everyone for your replies. I think I will wait awhile.
I was 103kg and 161cm 12J bra, couldn't buy any clothes anywhere. My lowest was 67kg, now I am 72ish after Covid and gaining muscle and consider myself very fit. I still wear the same clothes as I did at 67kg, now a 8GG bra, small Laura Jane, size 10-12 Witchery and Country Road and size 10 Jeans at Jeanswest and Just Jeans, and can buy from Kmart at size 8-10 (for clothes perspective) I am 2.5 years post op. I am an emotional eater and drink too much. I eat much less now, but still at times drink the same. the difference is as my body weight is so much less, I can do the exercise to counter it somewhat. And if I eat too much, I will vomit. (not a good thing, but an excellent reminder when needed) I eat better now, higher quality, stop when I am not enjoying the food. My husband was supportive as I have other health issues and weight loss has assisted somewhat with those, but I still suffer for a form of Rhuemtoid Arthritis that can be very painful and debilitating. At least get a referral to see a surgeon, unless you wish to pay for it yourself without Private health care to cover, you will need to wait 12 months to be covered. (personally I weighed up waiting 12 months and the premium cost v out of savings with basic cover which covered more than I expected, and have not regretted for one second) It doesn't stop how you feel about food, but it helps.
8 weeks post op. No regrets!!
23kgs down.
Also an emotional eater!!
Nope, no regrets. Although I am not an emotional eater, I was just an over eater.
Depending on what surgeon you go to, a therapist and extra support can be included. I have 3 years of follow-up with my doctor and his staff.
I only told my friend (who recommended the surgeon), my husband and my mum. I don't regret not telling anyone, as it's no one's business.
Also if you are happy with yourself, don't change because someone said something about you. What a horrible thing of him to say. I am 169cm and got up to 112kg, my husband never said one thing to me about my weight.
I am 2 years post op and lost 40kg and put none back on. If you are wanting to do it for yourself, then go for it - I would recommend getting public health insurance to cover everything.
I personally haven't had it done, however 2 of my best mates have. what i have watched how it works - they all looks stacks of weight and end up a size 8, then progressively over the next 2 years stay thin, but start to sneak in old favourite foods, littl by little, cheating the system, till they end up by year 5 eating exactly what made them fat to start with. and by yr7 where the same size as they started give of take a kg. in both cases the surgery helped their mental health at that point, however now both have guilt over screwing it up. You have to work out the why you got heavy and work on gaining control over that. then i am sure a surgical option might be more appropriate
I have just started Noom. So far it has been great. It is addressing the reasons I overeat. I had a friend recently do Noom also who has lost 60 kilos and is doing really well. She has been considering a gastric sleeve but decided to give Noom a try first. It may be an option. Best wishes.