What am I doing wrong? I’ve been single for nearly 6 years now and I’m over being on my own. I don’t need a partner but I would like one.
I don’t know where I’m going wrong. I’m a single mum and I don’t do partying that’s just not me. We go out regularly to do things.
I’ve joined dating apps. Don’t even get me started on these haha.
I’m a bigger chick lol it’s a bit extra to love. I’m not huge huge but I’m big.
I want someone to share my life with and someone to cook for, make them work lunches, laugh with, do outings with, etc.
I don’t know where I’m going wrong. It seems everyone just wants sex and that’s it.
No one wants to date or commit and just wants what they can get.
They seem like they want more than if we hook up they fizzle out.
One guy we talked on and off for a few years. He met my daughter it went great. But than he fizzled out. He messages and wants to catch up but only when he wants too. I’ve stopped saying yes unless it’s an activity somewhere that can’t lead to anything sexual.
I’m so lost as to what I am doing wrong. I’m so over being on my own.
Anyone have any tips or ideas? I honestly have never had to do the whole dating thing for well over 12 years. And before that as a kid/teenager I never was lucky enough to have someone want me.
I’ve done the whole friends with benefits.
One of my brothers friends is single and I as a teenager thought of him as more but he was with someone else and they are no longer together. But I don’t know if he is interested lol recently we’re at some same events and we laughed jokes and that kinda thing.
How do I meet someone? How to I let them know I’m interested?
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I honestly thinking dating apps have ruined dating...
I agree they are horrible
I agree it's so hard. I think you need to make sure your online profile is up to date, accurate and clear in what you want. Then you have to actually meet people in real life to see if its a possibility or not, sooner rather than wasting everyone's time chatting. Even do an online video chat as early on as is comfortable and then arrange a date. Move it offline asap.
It’s not you, it’s them.
They think they have a smorgasbord of women from online dating.
They have their baggage and don’t want to commit, they are Peter pans.
The younger guys seems more mature, but I don’t want a young guy.
Just know it’s bloody hard, I’ve given up on online dating.
I could have written this. I was actually going ask for help myself but you beat me to it 😂. Also a big woman, one kid, single for 5 years. I would be lucky if anyone even wanted to have sex with me. I just don't feel the love. Sorry not much help but big girl to big girl I feel you.
I was single for 5 years. It took me a while to be ok on my own but I eventually decided I was better off on my own than being messed around by guys who weren't invested in me. I jumped on tinder just to talk to people with no expectations. The good thing with tinder was that people are honest and tell you they looking for a hookup. I happened to meet a really nice guy who I explored dating with and he remains a good friend. I also met my now partner and we've been together over 5 years now. I wasn't looking for a partner, I was looking for someone to talk to.
Don't stress. Approach it casually. You don't NEED a man. You need to be ok on your own and the right guy will just fit into it.
I also told him sex was off the table until it was right. That weedled out a lot of guys along the way :)
Being in a relationship isn’t everything. It’s been more often more problems than it’s worth.