withholding sex or not interested

Anon Imperfect Mum

withholding sex or not interested

please help ladies

ive been with this guy for 4 months...the sex has been amazing. now im flat out getting it once a week. He has this thing were is he wants it he will push till he gets it..but when i ask or gesture he withholds it..

i bit of background story...he just so happens to be gettting alot of white chalky stuff around his knob. he is uncircumcised..he uses this as an excuse not to have sex...

WHAT DO I DO??? Any advice would be great.

cheers.

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage

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Anon Imperfect Mum

If he was genuinely concerned about his penis he’d see a doctor.
Don’t waste any more energy on this, it’s only been 4 months and the gaping cracks are already showing.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

That's enough for me to cut this guy free and move on.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My advice from a medical standpoint.

This "chalky" substance is probably a smegma build up which is caused by a lack of hygiene or less likely but still plausible, he has some kind of infection or skin condition.
I firmly recommend you avoid ANY sexual activity with him until this issue is cleared up.
Secondly, I would get yourself a sexual health screening just to be on the safe side. There's a small part of me that suspects he might be getting some on the side.

From a romantic standpoint, I personally would call it a day here.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Is he seeing a DR about his dick?
Is he embarrassed and need some encouragement to do so?
No way I'd be trying to get ANY sex let alone more sex from a guy with something undiagnosed wrong with his cock.

Find out what the difference is between when he wants it and when you want it.
Does his penis hurt, and when it doesn't is when he wants to bang?
Is it just CBF when you want it?

TBH, sounds like the potential is high that it's an STI. If you haven't been using protection it'll be worth a sexual health check up for you.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

It's way too early to be having sex problems and getting pushed into things you don't really want to do is a major hell no, say goodbye it's only been 4 months so no real loss.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

First off I'd be telling him to either go to the doctor, of clean himself more. Personal hygiene is a BIG thing, and should not be overlooked. That part goes inside you!!

Plus it's 4 months, for me, that. Would be enough for me to break it off. I couldn't handle not having someone clean their genitals.

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